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Rule #1

Pacers Digest is intended to be a place to discuss basketball without having to deal with the kinds of behaviors or attitudes that distract people from sticking with the discussion of the topics at hand. These unwanted distractions can come in many forms, and admittedly it can sometimes be tricky to pin down each and every kind that can rear its ugly head, but we feel that the following examples and explanations cover at least a good portion of that ground and should at least give people a pretty good idea of the kinds of things we actively discourage:

"Anyone who __________ is a liar / a fool / an idiot / a blind homer / has their head buried in the sand / a blind hater / doesn't know basketball / doesn't watch the games"

"People with intelligence will agree with me when I say that __________"

"Only stupid people think / believe / do ___________"

"I can't wait to hear something from PosterX when he/she sees that **insert a given incident or current event that will have probably upset or disappointed PosterX here**"

"He/she is just delusional"

"This thread is stupid / worthless / embarrassing"

"I'm going to take a moment to point and / laugh at PosterX / GroupOfPeopleY who thought / believed *insert though/belief here*"

"Remember when PosterX said OldCommentY that no longer looks good? "

In general, if a comment goes from purely on topic to something 'ad hominem' (personal jabs, personal shots, attacks, flames, however you want to call it, towards a person, or a group of people, or a given city/state/country of people), those are most likely going to be found intolerable.

We also dissuade passive aggressive behavior. This can be various things, but common examples include statements that are basically meant to imply someone is either stupid or otherwise incapable of holding a rational conversation. This can include (but is not limited to) laughing at someone's conclusions rather than offering an honest rebuttal, asking people what game they were watching, or another common problem is Poster X will say "that player isn't that bad" and then Poster Y will say something akin to "LOL you think that player is good". We're not going to tolerate those kinds of comments out of respect for the community at large and for the sake of trying to just have an honest conversation.

Now, does the above cover absolutely every single kind of distraction that is unwanted? Probably not, but you should by now have a good idea of the general types of things we will be discouraging. The above examples are meant to give you a good feel for / idea of what we're looking for. If something new or different than the above happens to come along and results in the same problem (that being, any other attitude or behavior that ultimately distracts from actually just discussing the topic at hand, or that is otherwise disrespectful to other posters), we can and we will take action to curb this as well, so please don't take this to mean that if you managed to technically avoid saying something exactly like one of the above examples that you are then somehow off the hook.

That all having been said, our goal is to do so in a generally kind and respectful way, and that doesn't mean the moment we see something we don't like that somebody is going to be suspended or banned, either. It just means that at the very least we will probably say something about it, quite possibly snipping out the distracting parts of the post in question while leaving alone the parts that are actually just discussing the topics, and in the event of a repeating or excessive problem, then we will start issuing infractions to try to further discourage further repeat problems, and if it just never seems to improve, then finally suspensions or bans will come into play. We would prefer it never went that far, and most of the time for most of our posters, it won't ever have to.

A slip up every once and a while is pretty normal, but, again, when it becomes repetitive or excessive, something will be done. Something occasional is probably going to be let go (within reason), but when it starts to become habitual or otherwise a pattern, odds are very good that we will step in.

There's always a small minority that like to push people's buttons and/or test their own boundaries with regards to the administrators, and in the case of someone acting like that, please be aware that this is not a court of law, but a private website run by people who are simply trying to do the right thing as they see it. If we feel that you are a special case that needs to be dealt with in an exceptional way because your behavior isn't explicitly mirroring one of our above examples of what we generally discourage, we can and we will take atypical action to prevent this from continuing if you are not cooperative with us.

Also please be aware that you will not be given a pass simply by claiming that you were 'only joking,' because quite honestly, when someone really is just joking, for one thing most people tend to pick up on the joke, including the person or group that is the target of the joke, and for another thing, in the event where an honest joke gets taken seriously and it upsets or angers someone, the person who is truly 'only joking' will quite commonly go out of his / her way to apologize and will try to mend fences. People who are dishonest about their statements being 'jokes' do not do so, and in turn that becomes a clear sign of what is really going on. It's nothing new.

In any case, quite frankly, the overall quality and health of the entire forum's community is more important than any one troublesome user will ever be, regardless of exactly how a problem is exhibiting itself, and if it comes down to us having to make a choice between you versus the greater health and happiness of the entire community, the community of this forum will win every time.

Lastly, there are also some posters, who are generally great contributors and do not otherwise cause any problems, who sometimes feel it's their place to provoke or to otherwise 'mess with' that small minority of people described in the last paragraph, and while we possibly might understand why you might feel you WANT to do something like that, the truth is we can't actually tolerate that kind of behavior from you any more than we can tolerate the behavior from them. So if we feel that you are trying to provoke those other posters into doing or saying something that will get themselves into trouble, then we will start to view you as a problem as well, because of the same reason as before: The overall health of the forum comes first, and trying to stir the pot with someone like that doesn't help, it just makes it worse. Some will simply disagree with this philosophy, but if so, then so be it because ultimately we have to do what we think is best so long as it's up to us.

If you see a problem that we haven't addressed, the best and most appropriate course for a forum member to take here is to look over to the left of the post in question. See underneath that poster's name, avatar, and other info, down where there's a little triangle with an exclamation point (!) in it? Click that. That allows you to report the post to the admins so we can definitely notice it and give it a look to see what we feel we should do about it. Beyond that, obviously it's human nature sometimes to want to speak up to the poster in question who has bothered you, but we would ask that you try to refrain from doing so because quite often what happens is two or more posters all start going back and forth about the original offending post, and suddenly the entire thread is off topic or otherwise derailed. So while the urge to police it yourself is understandable, it's best to just report it to us and let us handle it. Thank you!

All of the above is going to be subject to a case by case basis, but generally and broadly speaking, this should give everyone a pretty good idea of how things will typically / most often be handled.

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If the actions of an administrator inspire you to make a comment, criticism, or express a concern about it, there is a wrong place and a couple of right places to do so.

The wrong place is to do so in the original thread in which the administrator took action. For example, if a post gets an infraction, or a post gets deleted, or a comment within a larger post gets clipped out, in a thread discussing Paul George, the wrong thing to do is to distract from the discussion of Paul George by adding your off topic thoughts on what the administrator did.

The right places to do so are:

A) Start a thread about the specific incident you want to talk about on the Feedback board. This way you are able to express yourself in an area that doesn't throw another thread off topic, and this way others can add their two cents as well if they wish, and additionally if there's something that needs to be said by the administrators, that is where they will respond to it.

B) Send a private message to the administrators, and they can respond to you that way.

If this is done the wrong way, those comments will be deleted, and if it's a repeating problem then it may also receive an infraction as well.

Rule #3

If a poster is bothering you, and an administrator has not or will not deal with that poster to the extent that you would prefer, you have a powerful tool at your disposal, one that has recently been upgraded and is now better than ever: The ability to ignore a user.

When you ignore a user, you will unfortunately still see some hints of their existence (nothing we can do about that), however, it does the following key things:

A) Any post they make will be completely invisible as you scroll through a thread.

B) The new addition to this feature: If someone QUOTES a user you are ignoring, you do not have to read who it was, or what that poster said, unless you go out of your way to click on a link to find out who it is and what they said.

To utilize this feature, from any page on Pacers Digest, scroll to the top of the page, look to the top right where it says 'Settings' and click that. From the settings page, look to the left side of the page where it says 'My Settings', and look down from there until you see 'Edit Ignore List' and click that. From here, it will say 'Add a Member to Your List...' Beneath that, click in the text box to the right of 'User Name', type in or copy & paste the username of the poster you are ignoring, and once their name is in the box, look over to the far right and click the 'Okay' button. All done!

Rule #4

Regarding infractions, currently they carry a value of one point each, and that point will expire in 31 days. If at any point a poster is carrying three points at the same time, that poster will be suspended until the oldest of the three points expires.

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When you share or paste content or articles from another website, you must include the URL/link back to where you found it, who wrote it, and what website it's from. Said content will be removed if this doesn't happen.

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If I copy and paste an article from the Indianapolis Star website, I would post something like this:

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It may or may not go without saying, but this goes for threads and posts as well, particularly when it's not made on the off-topic board (Market Square).

We do make exceptions if we feel the content is both innocuous and unlikely to cause social problems on the forum (such as wishing someone a Merry Christmas or a Happy Easter), and we also also make exceptions if such topics come up with regards to a sports figure (such as the Lance Stephenson situation bringing up discussions of domestic abuse and the law, or when Jason Collins came out as gay and how that lead to some discussion about gay rights).

However, once the discussion seems to be more/mostly about the political issues instead of the sports figure or his specific situation, the thread is usually closed.

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We prefer self-restraint and/or modesty when making jokes or off topic comments in a sports discussion thread. They can be fun, but sometimes they derail or distract from a topic, and we don't want to see that happen. If we feel it is a problem, we will either delete or move those posts from the thread.

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    Alright, I have a couple of really important questions, I hope someone can help me with. I have applied and gotten acceptance to a PhD program.

    1. Do you think that if I asked, they could extend the timeline given to me to accept? They gave me until Apr 15, but I need more time than that.

    2. The bigger question...say like they do not give me that time. Is it ok to go ahead and accept the PhD program, but if I get into the program that I really want to within the next 1-2 months, to tell the PhD pgrm that I want to go in another direction?

    This is VERY important! Thanks!
    Don't ask Marvin Harrison what he did during the bye week. "Batman never told where the Bat Cave is," he explained.

  • #2
    Re: Grad School Help/Question

    The April, 15 deadline is for students who are guaranteed to receive financial aid from the institution, so I assume that you are in this situation.

    I believe that you should be honest with the first university (A) and tell them that if you were to be admitted at the other one (B) you would have to bolt the first. If there is a big difference between universities (say IU vs. Stanford), they will probably understand and give you additional time to decide. (what's the point of this April 15 deadline anyway? Since when do universities need 5 months to prepare for the next fall?)

    At the same time, if you're not sure that you will receive financial aid in case you're admitted at institution B, you should be cautious in the way you negociate with A. My overall advice is to be honest when negociating.

    You may want to read the comments on this post on a philosophy blog:
    http://leiterreports.typepad.com/blo...er_studen.html

    The post is about philosophy but I believe that most of the comments apply outside philosophy.

    I don't know what your field of study is but you should try to find out whether there is an agreement
    between universities and the American [Insert your field of study here] Association.

    And BTW, congrats for being admitted to a PhD program.

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    • #3
      Re: Grad School Help/Question

      That's a tough one. I'm still thinking on the right thing to do vs. the prudent thing to do. While they might be understanding if you explain why you need extra time, don't count on it. The pessimist in me sees a possibility they might rather withdraw their offer than extend the time to consider it, i.e. just telling them you'd prefer another program might make them less confident about having you in theirs. I'm thinking of this from a business standpoint, not an academic one, having more experience in business than academia.

      1.
      How about this? Resign yourself to not getting the extra time and to waiting it out for the other offer. Tell them near April 15 that you'd like to accept their offer, but will have to decline if not given further time. See what they say. The downside to this scenario is that they probably have backups for your spot, not to mention that you could end up in the cold.

      2.
      Accept their offer. Wait for the other one. If it doesn't come, you're still in. If it does, then you face the ethical predicament. I think in that situation you have to do what's right for you. They have no idea whether you held out for the other opportunity or became dissatisfied with theirs. They probably still can plug the hole you leave behind, and you're assured of at least your backup choice.

      3. I've been in similar situations regarding job offers. They will know why you want extra time, in fact they'll probably ask you if that's the reason. They might be willing to wait, but they have their own timetable for getting things done too. Asking them to wait one month might not be unreasonable, but two probably is.

      4.
      Why not ask the other guys to speed up their process for you? You CAN explain to them why you have a problem. Perhaps they will put you on some fasttrack in the process and make up their minds earlier. At the very least, someone should emphathize with your problem and maybe give you a better idea of your chances.

      Is this a decision that will haunt you the rest of your life? We all have those. Consider which dilemma you'd rather have haunt you -- an ethical one or giving up the career choice you prefer. It's a no brainer for me, nobody's 100% ethical all the time, life is full of choices. While I feel badly about keeping program A on hold, that's what I'd do. In the meantime, I'd do everything I could to get program B's act in gear and find out.

      Sorry for being so long winded. Another thought crossed my mind. Why is there such a discrepancy between the deadlines? Is it possible that program A cannot compete with program B and therefore sets an earlier deadline just to force people to decide earlier than they want to? Just trying to find justification for keeping them on hold I guess.
      Don't thank me, I'll kill ya.

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      • #4
        Re: Grad School Help/Question

        Originally posted by Knucklehead Warrior View Post



        2.

        Accept their offer. Wait for the other one. If it doesn't come, you're
        still in. If it does, then you face the ethical predicament. I think in
        that situation you have to do what's right for you. They have no idea
        whether you held out for the other opportunity or became dissatisfied with
        theirs. They probably still can plug the hole you leave behind, and you're
        assured of at least your backup choice.


        Is this allowed? This is the question I'm worried about. I mean, ethically
        I would not feel good, but if I need to do it I'll do it. But if I do accept
        from option A, it's not binding is it? If it isn't, which I wouldn't think
        it is, then I could go ahead and accept, and then decline later if I get
        what acceptance I want more.






        3. I've been in similar situations regarding job offers. They will know
        why you want extra time, in fact they'll probably ask you if that's the
        reason. They might be willing to wait, but they have their own timetable
        for getting things done too. Asking them to wait one month might not be
        unreasonable, but two probably is.


        I'm thinking I might ask for that extension, but like you said, I don't
        know how they would take that. I figured just to say that I have not yet
        heard from other schools that I'm considering, and that I want to have all
        the information in front of me before I make a decision. Or something like
        that.



        4. Why not ask the other guys to speed up their process for you? You CAN
        explain to them why you have a problem. Perhaps they will put you on some
        fasttrack in the process and make up their minds earlier. At the very least,
        someone should emphathize with your problem and maybe give you a better idea
        of your chances.


        I might have to wait a week or 2, since I just completed the application for
        that. My own lack of foresight there, but oh well. They said they would
        hopefully have it by the end of April, but I'm not sure.




        Sorry for being so long winded. Another thought crossed my mind. Why is
        there such a discrepancy between the deadlines? Is it possible that program
        A cannot compete with program B and therefore sets an earlier deadline just
        to force people to decide earlier than they want to? Just trying to find
        justification for keeping them on hold I guess.


        Actually, prgm A is the much better prgm. Problem is, prgm B better
        suits my needs. What throws this all for a loop is prgm C, which is the
        one I really want to get into. But that one I don't know how long they will
        take, because it could be from now till June 1 before I hear.
        Don't ask Marvin Harrison what he did during the bye week. "Batman never told where the Bat Cave is," he explained.

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        • #5
          Re: Grad School Help/Question

          Is the financial aid you'd need to apply for binding? If not, you should be in a position to have a frank conversation with them about your timeline and how it varies from theirs.

          Several years ago, I was a long way down the road to spending the last year of my MBA in the full-time program, but I got two pieces of information on the same day - a less-than expected financial aid package (all loans, no grants/ TA assignments) and the news of my wife's pregnancy, which meant that I didn't want to quit my "day job" just yet...

          Of course, in that situation I was just moving between a full-time and part-time section of the same MBA program, but the university didn't have a problem holding open that space in both programs until the financial aid package was finalized.

          Good luck, and of course, congrats on your acceptance.
          Why do the things that we treasure most, slip away in time
          Till to the music we grow deaf, to God's beauty blind
          Why do the things that connect us slowly pull us apart?
          Till we fall away in our own darkness, a stranger to our own hearts
          And life itself, rushing over me
          Life itself, the wind in black elms,
          Life itself in your heart and in your eyes, I can't make it without you

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          • #6
            Re: Grad School Help/Question

            Originally posted by Jay View Post
            Is the financial aid you'd need to apply for binding? If not, you should be in a position to have a frank conversation with them about your timeline and how it varies from theirs.
            I'm not quite sure what you mean. They have already offered their financial aid package along with the acception, so I do not have to apply for it.
            Don't ask Marvin Harrison what he did during the bye week. "Batman never told where the Bat Cave is," he explained.

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            • #7
              Re: Grad School Help/Question

              I mean, are there any financial strings attached to an April 15 deadline?

              Or are they just holding a seat open for you? That was my situation.

              If its just the seat, it should be flexible. If there is money involved, maybe not.
              Why do the things that we treasure most, slip away in time
              Till to the music we grow deaf, to God's beauty blind
              Why do the things that connect us slowly pull us apart?
              Till we fall away in our own darkness, a stranger to our own hearts
              And life itself, rushing over me
              Life itself, the wind in black elms,
              Life itself in your heart and in your eyes, I can't make it without you

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              • #8
                Re: Grad School Help/Question

                Also note that MANY programs allow you to defer your acceptance up to one year.
                “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston Churchill

                “If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning.” - Catherine Aird

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                • #9
                  Re: Grad School Help/Question

                  I've sent in deposits to three places to hold my financial aid until I make a financial decision about law school. Will I lose 400 bucks? Sure. But since one of these places is likely to give me at least 20k more in free money than another place, it's well worth it in the long run.
                  Narf!

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                  • #10
                    Re: Grad School Help/Question

                    The financial aspect of the deadline probably is not flexible, as with most schools.
                    Don't ask Marvin Harrison what he did during the bye week. "Batman never told where the Bat Cave is," he explained.

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