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    Jason Collins "comes out"

    I expect this to be a complete non-story, but should be inbteresting to see. Kind of glad an NBA player is the first to make it public

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    By Jason Collins with Franz Lidz
    This story appears in the May 6, 2013, issue of Sports Illustrated.

    I'm a 34-year-old NBA center. I'm black. And I'm gay.

    I didn't set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport. But since I am, I'm happy to start the conversation. I wish I wasn't the kid in the classroom raising his hand and saying, "I'm different." If I had my way, someone else would have already done this. Nobody has, which is why I'm raising my hand.\

    My journey of self-discovery and self-acknowledgement began in my hometown of Los Angeles and has taken me through two state high school championships, the NCAA Final Four and the Elite Eight, and nine playoffs in 12 NBA seasons.

    I've played for six pro teams and have appeared in two NBA Finals. Ever heard of a parlor game called Three Degrees of Jason Collins? If you're in the league, and I haven't been your teammate, I surely have been one of your teammates' teammates. Or one of your teammates' teammates' teammates.

    Now I'm a free agent, literally and figuratively. I've reached that enviable state in life in which I can do pretty much what I want. And what I want is to continue to play basketball. I still love the game, and I still have something to offer. My coaches and teammates recognize that. At the same time, I want to be genuine and authentic and truthful.

    Why am I coming out now? Well, I started thinking about this in 2011 during the NBA player lockout. I'm a creature of routine. When the regular season ends I immediately dedicate myself to getting game ready for the opener of the next campaign in the fall. But the lockout wreaked havoc on my habits and forced me to confront who I really am and what I really want. With the season delayed, I trained and worked out. But I lacked the distraction that basketball had always provided.

    The first relative I came out to was my aunt Teri, a superior court judge in San Francisco. Her reaction surprised me. "I've known you were gay for years," she said. From that moment on I was comfortable in my own skin. In her presence I ignored my censor button for the first time. She gave me support. The relief I felt was a sweet release. Imagine you're in the oven, baking. Some of us know and accept our sexuality right away and some need more time to cook. I should know -- I baked for 33 years.


    When I was younger I dated women. I even got engaged. I thought I had to live a certain way. I thought I needed to marry a woman and raise kids with her. I kept telling myself the sky was red, but I always knew it was blue.

    I realized I needed to go public when Joe Kennedy, my old roommate at Stanford and now a Massachusetts congressman, told me he had just marched in Boston's 2012 Gay Pride Parade. I'm seldom jealous of others, but hearing what Joe had done filled me with envy. I was proud of him for participating but angry that as a closeted gay man I couldn't even cheer my straight friend on as a spectator. If I'd been questioned, I would have concocted half truths. What a shame to have to lie at a celebration of pride. I want to do the right thing and not hide anymore. I want to march for tolerance, acceptance and understanding. I want to take a stand and say, "Me, too."

    ***
    The recent Boston Marathon bombing reinforced the notion that I shouldn't wait for the circumstances of my coming out to be perfect. Things can change in an instant, so why not live truthfully? When I told Joe a few weeks ago that I was gay, he was grateful that I trusted him. He asked me to join him in 2013. We'll be marching on June 8.

    No one wants to live in fear. I've always been scared of saying the wrong thing. I don't sleep well. I never have. But each time I tell another person, I feel stronger and sleep a little more soundly. It takes an enormous amount of energy to guard such a big secret. I've endured years of misery and gone to enormous lengths to live a lie. I was certain that my world would fall apart if anyone knew. And yet when I acknowledged my sexuality I felt whole for the first time. I still had the same sense of humor, I still had the same mannerisms and my friends still had my back.

    Believe it or not, my family has had bigger shocks. Strange as it seems today, my parents expected only one child in 1978. Me. When I came out (for the first time) the doctors congratulated my mother on her healthy, seven-pound, one-ounce baby boy. "Wait!" said a nurse. "Here comes another one!" The other one, who arrived eight minutes later and three ounces heavier, was Jarron. He's followed me ever since, to Stanford and to the NBA, and as the ever-so-slightly older brother I've looked out for him.

    I had a happy childhood in the suburbs of L.A. My parents instilled in us an appreciation of history, art and, most important, Motown. Jarron and I weren't allowed to listen to rap until we were 12. After our birthday I dashed to Target and bought DJ Quik's album Quik Is the Name. I memorized every line. It was around this time that I began noticing subtle differences between Jarron and me. Our twinness was no longer synchronized. I couldn't identify with his attraction to girls.

    I feel blessed that I recognized my own attractions. Though I resisted my impulses through high school, I knew that when I was ready I had someone to turn to: my uncle Mark in New York. I knew we could talk without judgment, and we did last summer. Uncle Mark is gay. He and his partner have been in a stable relationship forever. For a confused young boy, I can think of no better role model of love and compassion.

    I didn't come out to my brother until last summer. His reaction to my breakfast revelation was radically different from Aunt Teri's. He was downright astounded. He never suspected. So much for twin telepathy. But by dinner that night, he was full of brotherly love. For the first time in our lives, he wanted to step in and protect me.

    My maternal grandmother was apprehensive about my plans to come out. She grew up in rural Louisiana and witnessed the horrors of segregation. During the civil rights movement she saw great bravery play out amid the ugliest aspects of humanity. She worries that I am opening myself up to prejudice and hatred. I explained to her that in a way, my coming out is preemptive. I shouldn't have to live under the threat of being outed. The announcement should be mine to make, not TMZ's.

    The hardest part of this is the realization that my entire family will be affected. But my relatives have told me repeatedly that as long as I'm happy, they're there for me. I watch as my brother and friends from college start their own families. Changing diapers is a lot of work, but children bring so much joy. I'm crazy about my nieces and nephew, and I can't wait to start a family of my own.

    ***
    I'm from a close-knit family. My parents instilled Christian values in me. They taught Sunday school, and I enjoyed lending a hand. I take the teachings of Jesus seriously, particularly the ones that touch on tolerance and understanding. On family trips, my parents made a point to expose us to new things, religious and cultural. In Utah, we visited the Mormon Salt Lake Temple. In Atlanta, the house of Martin Luther King Jr. That early exposure to otherness made me the guy who accepts everyone unconditionally.
    I'm learning to embrace the puzzle that is me. After I was traded by the Celtics to Washington in February, I took a detour to the Dr. King memorial. I was inspired and humbled. I celebrate being an African-American and the hardships of the past that still resonate today. But I don't let my race define me any more than I want my sexual orientation to. I don't want to be labeled, and I can't let someone else's label define me.
    On the court I graciously accept one label sometimes bestowed on me: "the pro's pro." I got that handle because of my fearlessness and my commitment to my teammates. I take charges and I foul -- that's been my forte. In fact, during the 2004-05 season my 322 personals led the NBA. I enter the court knowing I have six hard fouls to give. I set picks with my 7-foot, 255-pound body to get guys like Jason Kidd, John Wall and Paul Pierce open. I sacrifice myself for other players. I look out for teammates as I would my kid brother.

    I'm not afraid to take on any opponent. I love playing against the best. Though Shaquille O'Neal is a Hall of Famer, I never shirked from the challenge of trying to frustrate the heck out of him. (Note to Shaq: My flopping has nothing to do with being gay.) My mouthpiece is in, and my wrists are taped. Go ahead, take a swing -- I'll get up. I hate to say it, and I'm not proud of it, but I once fouled a player so hard that he had to leave the arena on a stretcher.

    I go against the gay stereotype, which is why I think a lot of players will be shocked: That guy is gay? But I've always been an aggressive player, even in high school. Am I so physical to prove that being gay doesn't make you soft? Who knows? That's something for a psychologist to unravel. My motivations, like my contributions, don't show up in box scores, and frankly I don't care about stats. Winning is what counts. I want to be evaluated as a team player.

    Loyalty to my team is the real reason I didn't come out sooner. When I signed a free-agent contract with Boston last July, I decided to commit myself to the Celtics and not let my personal life become a distraction. When I was traded to the Wizards, the political significance of coming out sunk in. I was ready to open up to the press, but I had to wait until the season was over.

    A college classmate tried to persuade me to come out then and there. But I couldn't yet. My one small gesture of solidarity was to wear jersey number 98 with the Celtics and then the Wizards. The number has great significance to the gay community. One of the most notorious antigay hate crimes occurred in 1998. Matthew Shepard, a University of Wyoming student, was kidnapped, tortured and lashed to a prairie fence. He died five days after he was finally found. That same year the Trevor Project was founded. This amazing organization provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention to kids struggling with their sexual identity. Trust me, I know that struggle. I've struggled with some insane logic. When I put on my jersey I was making a statement to myself, my family and my friends.

    The strain of hiding my sexuality became almost unbearable in March, when the U.S. Supreme Court heard arguments for and against same-sex marriage. Less then three miles from my apartment, nine jurists argued about my happiness and my future. Here was my chance to be heard, and I couldn't say a thing. I didn't want to answer questions and draw attention to myself. Not while I was still playing.

    I'm glad I'm coming out in 2013 rather than 2003. The climate has shifted; public opinion has shifted. And yet we still have so much farther to go. Everyone is terrified of the unknown, but most of us don't want to return to a time when minorities were openly discriminated against. I'm impressed with the straight pro athletes who have spoken up so far -- Chris Kluwe, Brendon Ayanbadejo. The more people who speak out, the better, gay or straight. It starts with President Obama's mentioning the 1969 Stonewall riots, which launched the gay rights movement, during his second inaugural address. And it extends to the grade-school teacher who encourages her students to accept the things that make us different.

    ***
    By its nature, my double life has kept me from getting close to any of my teammates. Early in my career I worked hard at acting straight, but as I got more comfortable in my straight mask it required less effort. In recent days, though, little has separated "mask on, mask off." Personally, I don't like to dwell in someone else's private life, and I hope players and coaches show me the same respect. When I'm with my team I'm all about working hard and winning games. A good teammate supports you no matter what.

    I've been asked how other players will respond to my announcement. The simple answer is, I have no idea. I'm a pragmatist. I hope for the best, but plan for the worst. The biggest concern seems to be that gay players will behave unprofessionally in the locker room. Believe me, I've taken plenty of showers in 12 seasons. My behavior wasn't an issue before, and it won't be one now. My conduct won't change. I still abide by the adage, "What happens in the locker room stays in the locker room." I'm still a model of discretion.
    As I write this, I haven't come out to anyone in the NBA. I'm not privy to what other players say about me. Maybe Mike Miller, my old teammate in Memphis, will recall the time I dropped by his house in Florida and say, "I enjoyed being his teammate, and I sold him a dog." I hope players swap stories like that. Maybe they'll talk about my character and what kind of person I am.

    As far as the reaction of fans, I don't mind if they heckle me. I've been booed before. There have been times when I've wanted to boo myself. But a lot of ill feelings can be cured by winning.

    I'm a veteran, and I've earned the right to be heard. I'll lead by example and show that gay players are no different from straight ones. I'm not the loudest person in the room, but I'll speak up when something isn't right. And try to make everyone laugh.

    I've never sought the spotlight. Though I'm coming out to the world, I intend to guard my privacy. I'm making this blanket statement in part to keep rumors and misunderstandings at bay. I hope fans will respect me for raising my hand. And I hope teammates will remember that I've never been an in-your-face kind of guy. All you need to know is that I'm single. I see no need to delve into specifics.

    Look at what happened in the military when the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy was repealed. Critics of the repeal were sure that out military members would devastate morale and destroy civilization. But a new study conducted by scholars from every branch of the armed forces except the Coast Guard concluded that "cohesion did not decline after the new policy of open service was put into place. In fact, greater openness and honesty resulting from repeal seem to have promoted increased understanding, respect and acceptance."

    The same goes for sports. Doc Rivers, my coach on the Celtics, says, "If you want to go quickly, go by yourself -- if you want to go farther, go in a group." I want people to pull together and push ahead.

    Openness may not completely disarm prejudice, but it's a good place to start. It all comes down to education. I'll sit down with any player who's uneasy about my coming out. Being gay is not a choice. This is the tough road and at times the lonely road. Former players like Tim Hardaway, who said "I hate gay people" (and then became a supporter of gay rights), fuel homophobia. Tim is an adult. He's entitled to his opinion. God bless America. Still, if I'm up against an intolerant player, I'll set a pretty hard pick on him. And then move on.

    The most you can do is stand up for what you believe in. I'm much happier since coming out to my friends and family. Being genuine and honest makes me happy.

    I'm glad I can stop hiding and refocus on my 13th NBA season. I've been running through the Santa Monica Mountains in a 30-pound vest with Shadow, the German shepherd I got from Mike Miller. In the pros, the older you get, the better shape you must be in. Next season a few more eyeballs are likely to be on me. That only motivates me to work harder.

    Some people insist they've never met a gay person. But Three Degrees of Jason Collins dictates that no NBA player can claim that anymore. Pro basketball is a family. And pretty much every family I know has a brother, sister or cousin who's gay. In the brotherhood of the NBA, I just happen to be the one who's out.



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  • #2
    Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

    I'm glad he did. He's doing a favor for any/all closeted NBA players, and really any in any pro sport.

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    • #3
      Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

      I doubt that anyone signs him next year. Not necessarily because he's now openly gay but I'm sure certain teams will not want to deal with the questions and media requests that will come with him on the team. He's also a player on the decline in the twilight of his career. I hope Jason can live with that if no team calls for his services next year.

      Also, he technically isn't the first NBA player to come out. John Amaechi did it back in 2007, albeit he had recently retired a year or two before.

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      • #4
        Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

        Non-story?! There's been a story before anyone even coming out about who would be the first. Sure, it's been expected for a while, but with so much speculation beforehand, I think it's definitely a big story.

        Very well written article, and you have to admire his courage.

        That being said, what's the over/under on athletes coming out in the next year after this?

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        • #5
          Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

          Good for Jason. And he roomed with a Kennedy in college? Random.

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          • #6
            Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

            It should be a non story because who you like and want to sleep with should not be a big deal because it hurts nobody, but sadly in our country people still make a big issue about it.

            Good for Jason. I am sure he will see a lot of negative comments, but I am sure the positive ones will outweigh the negative.

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              Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

              Originally posted by thewholefnshow31 View Post
              It should be a non story because who you like and want to sleep with should not be a big deal because it hurts nobody, but sadly in our country people still make a big issue about it.

              Good for Jason. I am sure he will see a lot of negative comments, but I am sure the positive ones will outweigh the negative.
              I wasn't trying to make a negative comment. I think this will be a story because it's such a big step forward in professional sports. He can do what he wants with his personal life, but him coming out is a big deal to others that wouldn't have had the courage to before. That's why it's a story, not because I care one way or the other if he's gay/straight.

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              • #8
                Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                Originally posted by conky View Post
                Non-story?! There's been a story before anyone even coming out about who would be the first. Sure, it's been expected for a while, but with so much speculation beforehand, I think it's definitely a big story.

                Very well written article, and you have to admire his courage.

                That being said, what's the over/under on athletes coming out in the next year after this?
                You have to see how the rest of the league responds. If no one signs him again, and players aren't supportive. (Although, they seem to be right now. I've seen positive comments from Kobe so far..) I can see it being a while.

                Good for him, it must be incredibly freeing. It's also a good thing for the NBA. The sad thing here, for me, is that he was actually closeted for 33 years.

                It's one thing for athletes in major league sports to not come out publically, it's another for them to hide themselves privately as well. The WNBA has a lot of players who live their lives, however they want, but only a few have actually publicly come out. (Swoopes..who is now married to a man again, Sue Wicks, Augustin, and Griner).

                And I understand it's different for men in general but the reality is that 1 in 10 people are gay, the percentage is actually slightly higher for men (some estimate 1 in 7) and slightly higher for athletes in general. That's around one to two teammates per team. I just hope the majority of them aren't completely closeted like Collins.

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                • #9
                  Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                  I admire his courage. That takes a lot of guts.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                    I am extremely proud of Jason Collins for taking this step! I hope many more will follow. As a fellow gay man, it is important to realize that gay doesn't equal "less manly" or any other stereotypical assessment. I foresee there being an openly gay player in each of the four major sports by the end of the year thanks to Jason's courage.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                      Good for him, that's sad to live that long hiding something. Especially when it affects so much of your life, both privately and publicly.

                      Is he saying he is the first athlete to "come out", or the first athlete to "come out" while currently playing? Because there have been lots of former athletes that have "come out".

                      Also, I just hope that if he is not picked up by a team that it doesn't turn into "The NBA just isn't ready for a gay man, he is being discriminated against", when in reality he is 33 and his best basketball is behind him.
                      I know "Sleeze" is spelled incorrectly. I spell it this way because it's based on a name.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                        Originally posted by conky View Post
                        I wasn't trying to make a negative comment. I think this will be a story because it's such a big step forward in professional sports. He can do what he wants with his personal life, but him coming out is a big deal to others that wouldn't have had the courage to before. That's why it's a story, not because I care one way or the other if he's gay/straight.
                        I was not insinuating you had a negative comment. I was just saying ideally it should not be a big story, but where we are in our society it is a big deal. I do hope he gives more people courage to come out in all our sports because who you choose to sleep with is no big deal and nobody should be judge by it.

                        Sookie is right in the fact that how the NBA reacts and if he gets re-signed will go further in giving the people more courage. Right or wrong currently closeted players will have a perception that the teams do not want openly gay players in the league if he is not re-signed. Hopefully he will continue to get support from guys the level of Kobe and he catches on with another team.

                        33 years is a long time and I bet that is a huge burden off his shoulders.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                          Good for him. The article was great
                          Originally posted by IrishPacer
                          Empty vessels make the most noise.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                            We should sign him!!
                            Being unable to close out a game in which you have a comfortable lead in the 4th Q = Pulling a Frank Vogel

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                            • #15
                              Re: Jason Collins "comes out"

                              Very supportive of Jason Collins for this step.
                              BillS

                              A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
                              Or throw in a first-round pick and flip it for a max-level point guard...

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