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Below are the rules of Pacers Digest. After you have read them, you will have a very good sense of where we are coming from, what we expect, what we don't want to see, and how we react to things.

Rule #1

Pacers Digest is intended to be a place to discuss basketball without having to deal with the kinds of behaviors or attitudes that distract people from sticking with the discussion of the topics at hand. These unwanted distractions can come in many forms, and admittedly it can sometimes be tricky to pin down each and every kind that can rear its ugly head, but we feel that the following examples and explanations cover at least a good portion of that ground and should at least give people a pretty good idea of the kinds of things we actively discourage:

"Anyone who __________ is a liar / a fool / an idiot / a blind homer / has their head buried in the sand / a blind hater / doesn't know basketball / doesn't watch the games"

"People with intelligence will agree with me when I say that __________"

"Only stupid people think / believe / do ___________"

"I can't wait to hear something from PosterX when he/she sees that **insert a given incident or current event that will have probably upset or disappointed PosterX here**"

"He/she is just delusional"

"This thread is stupid / worthless / embarrassing"

"I'm going to take a moment to point and / laugh at PosterX / GroupOfPeopleY who thought / believed *insert though/belief here*"

"Remember when PosterX said OldCommentY that no longer looks good? "

In general, if a comment goes from purely on topic to something 'ad hominem' (personal jabs, personal shots, attacks, flames, however you want to call it, towards a person, or a group of people, or a given city/state/country of people), those are most likely going to be found intolerable.

We also dissuade passive aggressive behavior. This can be various things, but common examples include statements that are basically meant to imply someone is either stupid or otherwise incapable of holding a rational conversation. This can include (but is not limited to) laughing at someone's conclusions rather than offering an honest rebuttal, asking people what game they were watching, or another common problem is Poster X will say "that player isn't that bad" and then Poster Y will say something akin to "LOL you think that player is good". We're not going to tolerate those kinds of comments out of respect for the community at large and for the sake of trying to just have an honest conversation.

Now, does the above cover absolutely every single kind of distraction that is unwanted? Probably not, but you should by now have a good idea of the general types of things we will be discouraging. The above examples are meant to give you a good feel for / idea of what we're looking for. If something new or different than the above happens to come along and results in the same problem (that being, any other attitude or behavior that ultimately distracts from actually just discussing the topic at hand, or that is otherwise disrespectful to other posters), we can and we will take action to curb this as well, so please don't take this to mean that if you managed to technically avoid saying something exactly like one of the above examples that you are then somehow off the hook.

That all having been said, our goal is to do so in a generally kind and respectful way, and that doesn't mean the moment we see something we don't like that somebody is going to be suspended or banned, either. It just means that at the very least we will probably say something about it, quite possibly snipping out the distracting parts of the post in question while leaving alone the parts that are actually just discussing the topics, and in the event of a repeating or excessive problem, then we will start issuing infractions to try to further discourage further repeat problems, and if it just never seems to improve, then finally suspensions or bans will come into play. We would prefer it never went that far, and most of the time for most of our posters, it won't ever have to.

A slip up every once and a while is pretty normal, but, again, when it becomes repetitive or excessive, something will be done. Something occasional is probably going to be let go (within reason), but when it starts to become habitual or otherwise a pattern, odds are very good that we will step in.

There's always a small minority that like to push people's buttons and/or test their own boundaries with regards to the administrators, and in the case of someone acting like that, please be aware that this is not a court of law, but a private website run by people who are simply trying to do the right thing as they see it. If we feel that you are a special case that needs to be dealt with in an exceptional way because your behavior isn't explicitly mirroring one of our above examples of what we generally discourage, we can and we will take atypical action to prevent this from continuing if you are not cooperative with us.

Also please be aware that you will not be given a pass simply by claiming that you were 'only joking,' because quite honestly, when someone really is just joking, for one thing most people tend to pick up on the joke, including the person or group that is the target of the joke, and for another thing, in the event where an honest joke gets taken seriously and it upsets or angers someone, the person who is truly 'only joking' will quite commonly go out of his / her way to apologize and will try to mend fences. People who are dishonest about their statements being 'jokes' do not do so, and in turn that becomes a clear sign of what is really going on. It's nothing new.

In any case, quite frankly, the overall quality and health of the entire forum's community is more important than any one troublesome user will ever be, regardless of exactly how a problem is exhibiting itself, and if it comes down to us having to make a choice between you versus the greater health and happiness of the entire community, the community of this forum will win every time.

Lastly, there are also some posters, who are generally great contributors and do not otherwise cause any problems, who sometimes feel it's their place to provoke or to otherwise 'mess with' that small minority of people described in the last paragraph, and while we possibly might understand why you might feel you WANT to do something like that, the truth is we can't actually tolerate that kind of behavior from you any more than we can tolerate the behavior from them. So if we feel that you are trying to provoke those other posters into doing or saying something that will get themselves into trouble, then we will start to view you as a problem as well, because of the same reason as before: The overall health of the forum comes first, and trying to stir the pot with someone like that doesn't help, it just makes it worse. Some will simply disagree with this philosophy, but if so, then so be it because ultimately we have to do what we think is best so long as it's up to us.

If you see a problem that we haven't addressed, the best and most appropriate course for a forum member to take here is to look over to the left of the post in question. See underneath that poster's name, avatar, and other info, down where there's a little triangle with an exclamation point (!) in it? Click that. That allows you to report the post to the admins so we can definitely notice it and give it a look to see what we feel we should do about it. Beyond that, obviously it's human nature sometimes to want to speak up to the poster in question who has bothered you, but we would ask that you try to refrain from doing so because quite often what happens is two or more posters all start going back and forth about the original offending post, and suddenly the entire thread is off topic or otherwise derailed. So while the urge to police it yourself is understandable, it's best to just report it to us and let us handle it. Thank you!

All of the above is going to be subject to a case by case basis, but generally and broadly speaking, this should give everyone a pretty good idea of how things will typically / most often be handled.

Rule #2

If the actions of an administrator inspire you to make a comment, criticism, or express a concern about it, there is a wrong place and a couple of right places to do so.

The wrong place is to do so in the original thread in which the administrator took action. For example, if a post gets an infraction, or a post gets deleted, or a comment within a larger post gets clipped out, in a thread discussing Paul George, the wrong thing to do is to distract from the discussion of Paul George by adding your off topic thoughts on what the administrator did.

The right places to do so are:

A) Start a thread about the specific incident you want to talk about on the Feedback board. This way you are able to express yourself in an area that doesn't throw another thread off topic, and this way others can add their two cents as well if they wish, and additionally if there's something that needs to be said by the administrators, that is where they will respond to it.

B) Send a private message to the administrators, and they can respond to you that way.

If this is done the wrong way, those comments will be deleted, and if it's a repeating problem then it may also receive an infraction as well.

Rule #3

If a poster is bothering you, and an administrator has not or will not deal with that poster to the extent that you would prefer, you have a powerful tool at your disposal, one that has recently been upgraded and is now better than ever: The ability to ignore a user.

When you ignore a user, you will unfortunately still see some hints of their existence (nothing we can do about that), however, it does the following key things:

A) Any post they make will be completely invisible as you scroll through a thread.

B) The new addition to this feature: If someone QUOTES a user you are ignoring, you do not have to read who it was, or what that poster said, unless you go out of your way to click on a link to find out who it is and what they said.

To utilize this feature, from any page on Pacers Digest, scroll to the top of the page, look to the top right where it says 'Settings' and click that. From the settings page, look to the left side of the page where it says 'My Settings', and look down from there until you see 'Edit Ignore List' and click that. From here, it will say 'Add a Member to Your List...' Beneath that, click in the text box to the right of 'User Name', type in or copy & paste the username of the poster you are ignoring, and once their name is in the box, look over to the far right and click the 'Okay' button. All done!

Rule #4

Regarding infractions, currently they carry a value of one point each, and that point will expire in 31 days. If at any point a poster is carrying three points at the same time, that poster will be suspended until the oldest of the three points expires.

Rule #5

When you share or paste content or articles from another website, you must include the URL/link back to where you found it, who wrote it, and what website it's from. Said content will be removed if this doesn't happen.

An example:

If I copy and paste an article from the Indianapolis Star website, I would post something like this:

http://www.linktothearticlegoeshere.com/article
Title of the Article
Author's Name
Indianapolis Star

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We cannot tolerate illegal videos on Pacers Digest. This means do not share any links to them, do not mention any websites that host them or link to them, do not describe how to find them in any way, and do not ask about them. Posts doing anything of the sort will be removed, the offenders will be contacted privately, and if the problem becomes habitual, you will be suspended, and if it still persists, you will probably be banned.

The legal means of watching or listening to NBA games are NBA League Pass Broadband (for US, or for International; both cost money) and NBA Audio League Pass (which is free). Look for them on NBA.com.

Rule #7

Provocative statements in a signature, or as an avatar, or as the 'tagline' beneath a poster's username (where it says 'Member' or 'Administrator' by default, if it is not altered) are an unwanted distraction that will more than likely be removed on sight. There can be shades of gray to this, but in general this could be something political or religious that is likely going to provoke or upset people, or otherwise something that is mean-spirited at the expense of a poster, a group of people, or a population.

It may or may not go without saying, but this goes for threads and posts as well, particularly when it's not made on the off-topic board (Market Square).

We do make exceptions if we feel the content is both innocuous and unlikely to cause social problems on the forum (such as wishing someone a Merry Christmas or a Happy Easter), and we also also make exceptions if such topics come up with regards to a sports figure (such as the Lance Stephenson situation bringing up discussions of domestic abuse and the law, or when Jason Collins came out as gay and how that lead to some discussion about gay rights).

However, once the discussion seems to be more/mostly about the political issues instead of the sports figure or his specific situation, the thread is usually closed.

Rule #8

We prefer self-restraint and/or modesty when making jokes or off topic comments in a sports discussion thread. They can be fun, but sometimes they derail or distract from a topic, and we don't want to see that happen. If we feel it is a problem, we will either delete or move those posts from the thread.

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    http://www.nj.com/setonhall/index.ss...lear-eyed.html

    D'Alessandro: Strong, clear-eyed Luther Wright now able to share details of harrowing past
    Published: Sunday, November 21, 2010, 8:00 AM
    Dave D'Alessandro/Star-Ledger Columnist Dave D'Alessandro/Star-Ledger Columnist
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    Luther Wright Seton Hall sitting campus tight fileTony Kurdzuk/The Star-LedgerSitting in the main lobby of Seton Hall University Center working on his computer, Luther Wright laughs at a joke made by a student passing by.
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    One of the reasons Luther Wright decided to write a book about his life was simple: He was getting a little tired of everyone assuming he was dead.

    Of course, he understands why anyone might have reached such a conclusion. It had been a life so dissipated by drugs that newspapers and websites, usually from New Jersey, felt compelled to update it every three or four years, but only with the morbid expectation that these “Where Are They Now?” pieces would soon be rewritten for the obit page.

    That is not meant to be a glib summary about a man’s troubled life, but if you read this memoir, entitled “A Perfect Fit,” you realize that it is more a series of still-life, near-death vignettes — often harrowing in detail — which narrate Wright’s journey from Hudson County to the NBA to self-destruction. And this story has been told a dozen times in a dozen places.

    What you don’t know is that this life — narrated in Wright’s own voice and organized masterfully by renowned journalist Karen Hunter — was largely shaped and driven by a crucible that will stay with him forever, and stay with the rest of us for as long as we remember his name.

    The intention here was to advance the story and reshape the transition of Luther Wright, but as it turns out, he doesn’t need anyone’s help to do that anymore.

    At 38 and riding a five-year winning streak against his crack addiction, he is now strong and courageous enough to write about the secret he had kept all his life — that he had been molested and raped by three family members throughout his childhood, from ages 5 to 9.

    “But I’ve reached a point in my life where I don’t use anything as an excuse anymore,” the giant from Jersey City explained. “Excuses are for incompetent people. If I say to you, ‘I don’t know something’ but don’t go out of my way to figure it out, then I’m incompetent. And that’s not me anymore. I feel competent — enough to tell a story that might do somebody some good.”

    HOLDING COURT

    The first thing that strikes you is he is happy and peaceful, in a jumbo-sized way. It’s not easy to carry his 425 pounds around the Seton Hall campus, where he has re-enrolled as a junior, but he is clear-eyed and buoyant.

    During a 45-minute conversation in the Student Center lounge, no fewer than a dozen students stop by to tap him on the chest — adorned by a T-shirt with the new book’s cover printed on it, to announce its release date Tuesday — or squeeze the oversized couch cushion he calls his right hand.

    He loves company, loves to talk about what is important to his life — his wife of three years (Angie), his passion for gospel music (he sits in on guitar with Bishop Joe Clark and Aerofaith), his mentoring role to kids, the church in Linden that nurtured him back to life, and his course load this semester (French, Art of Western World, Astronomy and Writing for the Media), the cost of which is covered by an “angel” he chooses not to name.

    This is not the kid who was so withdrawn and almost incapable of having a conversation at Elizabeth High. This is not the young man who was terrified by the burden of potential fame his first time through SHU, during the final years of P.J. Carlesimo’s tenure.

    And he is nothing like the guy that was picked 18th by the Utah Jazz in the 1993 draft, one so overwhelmed by the NBA life — and overwhelmed by bipolar disorder, depression and hanging out with “the pimps, gangbangers, hooligans and drug dealers” that only he could find in Salt Lake City — that his career would end after only 15 games.

    GRIM TIMES

    Indeed, Wright now sounds like a man who is, to borrow a handy phrase, reborn — if not actually alive for the first time, after enduring some other form of existence that until recently had very little going for it.

    “The title of the book,” he said, “is meant to ask this: What 7-footer do you know is a perfect fit anywhere? On a bus? In a car? In the classroom? There’s no perfect fit for someone this big.

    “But I believe that God put me here knowing I could be a perfect fit somewhere, and I’m finding that place. I may be a tight fit sometimes, but I’m still going to fit my way in — because he don’t make no junk.”

    The book, basically a somber and honest narrative of his descent into Palookaville, has some interesting characters. One was a grandmother (the formidable Mama McDonald), a woman from the Booker T. Washington projects in Jersey City who read her Bible and chewed tobacco and carried a .22 pistol that she allegedly fired at her husband and any addict that dared come through her window.

    These were the kinds of people who helped raise Wright, who also introduces us to an
    intemperate father who beat him regularly, though the son goes to great lengths to rationalize this sadistic behavior.

    And then there were the relatives who molested him, after he was left in their care by Wright’s mother, whom he couldn’t bring himself to tell until a few years ago.

    Essentially, since he left the Hall in ’93, we’ve asked of Luther Wright, “How can a life fall apart so easily?”

    When you read his words, which offers no excuses, it actually becomes very easy to fathom.

    “But I don’t dwell on things anymore — the way to get over the molestations was to forgive,” he said. “There is no situation that has no solution. Math people tell me different, but I don’t believe it — I found solutions in AA, NA, counseling, and encouragement from good people — those are solutions.

    “So at the end of the day, my hope is this book can save one or two or three people. I know I can touch people’s lives. I’m sure of it.”
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