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Rule #1

Pacers Digest is intended to be a place to discuss basketball without having to deal with the kinds of behaviors or attitudes that distract people from sticking with the discussion of the topics at hand. These unwanted distractions can come in many forms, and admittedly it can sometimes be tricky to pin down each and every kind that can rear its ugly head, but we feel that the following examples and explanations cover at least a good portion of that ground and should at least give people a pretty good idea of the kinds of things we actively discourage:

"Anyone who __________ is a liar / a fool / an idiot / a blind homer / has their head buried in the sand / a blind hater / doesn't know basketball / doesn't watch the games"

"People with intelligence will agree with me when I say that __________"

"Only stupid people think / believe / do ___________"

"I can't wait to hear something from PosterX when he/she sees that **insert a given incident or current event that will have probably upset or disappointed PosterX here**"

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"This thread is stupid / worthless / embarrassing"

"I'm going to take a moment to point and / laugh at PosterX / GroupOfPeopleY who thought / believed *insert though/belief here*"

"Remember when PosterX said OldCommentY that no longer looks good? "

In general, if a comment goes from purely on topic to something 'ad hominem' (personal jabs, personal shots, attacks, flames, however you want to call it, towards a person, or a group of people, or a given city/state/country of people), those are most likely going to be found intolerable.

We also dissuade passive aggressive behavior. This can be various things, but common examples include statements that are basically meant to imply someone is either stupid or otherwise incapable of holding a rational conversation. This can include (but is not limited to) laughing at someone's conclusions rather than offering an honest rebuttal, asking people what game they were watching, or another common problem is Poster X will say "that player isn't that bad" and then Poster Y will say something akin to "LOL you think that player is good". We're not going to tolerate those kinds of comments out of respect for the community at large and for the sake of trying to just have an honest conversation.

Now, does the above cover absolutely every single kind of distraction that is unwanted? Probably not, but you should by now have a good idea of the general types of things we will be discouraging. The above examples are meant to give you a good feel for / idea of what we're looking for. If something new or different than the above happens to come along and results in the same problem (that being, any other attitude or behavior that ultimately distracts from actually just discussing the topic at hand, or that is otherwise disrespectful to other posters), we can and we will take action to curb this as well, so please don't take this to mean that if you managed to technically avoid saying something exactly like one of the above examples that you are then somehow off the hook.

That all having been said, our goal is to do so in a generally kind and respectful way, and that doesn't mean the moment we see something we don't like that somebody is going to be suspended or banned, either. It just means that at the very least we will probably say something about it, quite possibly snipping out the distracting parts of the post in question while leaving alone the parts that are actually just discussing the topics, and in the event of a repeating or excessive problem, then we will start issuing infractions to try to further discourage further repeat problems, and if it just never seems to improve, then finally suspensions or bans will come into play. We would prefer it never went that far, and most of the time for most of our posters, it won't ever have to.

A slip up every once and a while is pretty normal, but, again, when it becomes repetitive or excessive, something will be done. Something occasional is probably going to be let go (within reason), but when it starts to become habitual or otherwise a pattern, odds are very good that we will step in.

There's always a small minority that like to push people's buttons and/or test their own boundaries with regards to the administrators, and in the case of someone acting like that, please be aware that this is not a court of law, but a private website run by people who are simply trying to do the right thing as they see it. If we feel that you are a special case that needs to be dealt with in an exceptional way because your behavior isn't explicitly mirroring one of our above examples of what we generally discourage, we can and we will take atypical action to prevent this from continuing if you are not cooperative with us.

Also please be aware that you will not be given a pass simply by claiming that you were 'only joking,' because quite honestly, when someone really is just joking, for one thing most people tend to pick up on the joke, including the person or group that is the target of the joke, and for another thing, in the event where an honest joke gets taken seriously and it upsets or angers someone, the person who is truly 'only joking' will quite commonly go out of his / her way to apologize and will try to mend fences. People who are dishonest about their statements being 'jokes' do not do so, and in turn that becomes a clear sign of what is really going on. It's nothing new.

In any case, quite frankly, the overall quality and health of the entire forum's community is more important than any one troublesome user will ever be, regardless of exactly how a problem is exhibiting itself, and if it comes down to us having to make a choice between you versus the greater health and happiness of the entire community, the community of this forum will win every time.

Lastly, there are also some posters, who are generally great contributors and do not otherwise cause any problems, who sometimes feel it's their place to provoke or to otherwise 'mess with' that small minority of people described in the last paragraph, and while we possibly might understand why you might feel you WANT to do something like that, the truth is we can't actually tolerate that kind of behavior from you any more than we can tolerate the behavior from them. So if we feel that you are trying to provoke those other posters into doing or saying something that will get themselves into trouble, then we will start to view you as a problem as well, because of the same reason as before: The overall health of the forum comes first, and trying to stir the pot with someone like that doesn't help, it just makes it worse. Some will simply disagree with this philosophy, but if so, then so be it because ultimately we have to do what we think is best so long as it's up to us.

If you see a problem that we haven't addressed, the best and most appropriate course for a forum member to take here is to look over to the left of the post in question. See underneath that poster's name, avatar, and other info, down where there's a little triangle with an exclamation point (!) in it? Click that. That allows you to report the post to the admins so we can definitely notice it and give it a look to see what we feel we should do about it. Beyond that, obviously it's human nature sometimes to want to speak up to the poster in question who has bothered you, but we would ask that you try to refrain from doing so because quite often what happens is two or more posters all start going back and forth about the original offending post, and suddenly the entire thread is off topic or otherwise derailed. So while the urge to police it yourself is understandable, it's best to just report it to us and let us handle it. Thank you!

All of the above is going to be subject to a case by case basis, but generally and broadly speaking, this should give everyone a pretty good idea of how things will typically / most often be handled.

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If this is done the wrong way, those comments will be deleted, and if it's a repeating problem then it may also receive an infraction as well.

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Regarding infractions, currently they carry a value of one point each, and that point will expire in 31 days. If at any point a poster is carrying three points at the same time, that poster will be suspended until the oldest of the three points expires.

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    Boy lost his limbs, but kept his spirit and his football

    http://www.orlandosentinel.com/healt...5710941.column
    Dave Hyde,Sun Sentinel Columnist

    His legs are new. They arrived a week ago. His body outgrew the old pair, as happens every few months, and so he warms up on the new pair now by running back and forth in the grass behind the bench.

    "You ready?" the coach asks, pulling down the helmet on the kid's head because he can't himself, then snapping the chinstrap for him.

    A younger girl once asked what happened to his hands. He said they were invisible. To prove it, he moved the arms that stop just below the elbow in a clapping motion. A friend secretly clapped behind him.

    The girl was fooled. The boys laughed. And that's the sound which should rise above the tears and the prayers as you hear the amazing story of Michael Stolzenberg, that sound of laughter, kids' laughter, the kind a happy boy makes especially when doing something he loves such as running on a field into a game.



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    It doesn't matter if it's the final minutes, the score long settled. It doesn't matter if he's not that athlete he once was. Heck, at age 8, he was the starting quarterback of his traveling youth team in Weston — but that was two years ago, before it all happened, before his limbs were taken, before his year from hell.

    What matters as he runs on the field is what matters to any defensive end on any team at any age across any football field in America.

    "Let's stop 'em,'' he later says he was thinking.

    Game on.

    This is a story about more than how it all can change in a second. It's also a story about what you keep amid what you lose. And it started more than two years ago with this worry:

    "There's something wrong with Michael."

    His parents, Keith and Laura, heard that over the phone. This was the summer of 2008. They were out of town on a quick trip, and came back the next day to see he had a bug bite near his belly button. And a flu.

    He was taken to the doctor, given an oral antibiotic and told he'd be fine in a few days. He wasn't fine. He was worse. Laura rushed him to the emergency room and, while there, Michael went into septic shock.

    His breathing stopped. His body began to shut down. Another hour or two, the doctors said later, and he would have died. As it was, he was put on a ventilator. Then dialysis.

    He was diagnosed with a rare immune disease called chronic granulomatous disease. The treatment was equally rare. A medically-induced coma. Fifty-one days in intensive care. And, as a last recourse, when oxygen deprivation proved too much, his limbs were amputated.

    But, remember, this is a story about what you keep amid what you lose. And it was a while before anyone was sure just what he kept. His heart was fine, they could see, by how he fought for life. But his mind? Was that affected, too?

    When he came out of the coma, his mom tried searching how he was by asking if he wanted to see a good friend. He nodded. She asked if he wanted to see another friend. He nodded.

    "Then I thought maybe he was just nodding at anything and asked if he wanted to see someone he didn't really like,'' she said. "He made a face like, 'Are you crazy?' "

    So his mind was fine. And slowly, over months, his spirit returned, too. Everyone saw it. There was the first day back at Eagle Point Elementary School. Laura was a wreck, the way any parent would be. Picking him up, she tentatively asked how it went.

    "Great, mom, we have no homework!'' Michael said.

    And he moved forward like that. When Keith or Laura would try to park in a handicapped spot to spare him a long walk, he'd tell them to save it for someone who was truly handicapped.

    When his religious class asked for any extra money to help less fortunate kids, Michael took some, telling his parents there are kids without food and homes and toys.

    Do you see what he kept? Heart? Mind? Spirit? And something else: His community. Kept it? He added to it. At a time when South Floridians lament not knowing their neighbors, everyone seemed to know the Stolzenbergs.

    It wasn't just the word of him people passed around like answered prayers: He's out of the coma now. He's out of intensive care now. He's home now.



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    It was fund-raisers, too. A friend organized a walkathon. Others did for volleyball tournaments and go-kart rides. The MichaelStolzenbergTrust.org was set up to take donations.

    It wasn't just money, though. It was emotion. At the Weston youth league where the family has been involved for years, every team even ran extra sprints after practice in Michael's name, the coaches yelling for players to run harder, run faster because Michael couldn't. A video was given him of that in the hospital.

    Then last season, Michael walked to midfield for the pre-game coin flip each game of the 110-pound team. When the team won the Super Bowl, every player received a jacket. The coach, Todd Green, inscribed Michael's jacket with the word, "Captain."

    The world moved on. And the Stolzenbergs moved with it. Everyone grew accustomed to the way things were, even when Michael would come inside from playing something like "Manhunt" with his friends and say the socket on his artificial leg broke. That didn't mean a calamity. It meant another $200.

    Then, this August, brought another big decision. August in the Stolzenberg house meant football season was coming. They're Gators. They have Dolphins season tickets.

    For years, the family has spent Saturdays with their sons' Weston teams, too. Keith often coached. Michael grew up watching the games of his older brothers, Harris, 15, and Justin, 13. Then he began playing, too.

    So: Did Michael want to play again? Could he? The parents saw the benefit of sports, even just to trying them.

    "When you're on the field, you're taught to give everything you have and can't ever give up,'' Keith said. "I think that's one reason why Michael survived all this. He's never gave up through anything."

    When Michael said he wanted to try football again, they supported the idea. Keith volunteered to coach his 100-pound team. The family brought a tent, a couple of lawn chairs and a full cooler to Saturday's games, just like any other year.

    And Michael began to play again. He hasn't starred, the way he once did. This isn't a Disney script, after all. What happened was tragic. A kid's world was shattered. A family's, too.

    But football, it turns out, is something else he kept. Something that's fun to him. And, as he said after running on the field recently for a few plays at defensive end against the Fort Lauderdale Jaguars: "They didn't run at my side, did they?"

    As for the future, well, there are "bionic" hands he can be fitted with if there's enough money. In the past couple of years, several hospitals have performed hand transplants, too.

    So there's physical hope ahead. As for the other part, the mental part, Laura tells of a routine that's developed. Each night, she tucks her youngest son into bed and asks, "Michael, did you have a good day?"

    "No, mom, I had a great day," he says.

    That attitude doesn't surprise his parents. Not anymore. In fact, Laura brings up the nickname of her son's youth-league team and how it's fitting he isn't a Dolphin, Buc or Jaguar.

    Her son, she points out, is a Warrior.
    Man if that don't tug at your heart I dont know what will

    What an ispiration!
    Last edited by 90'sNBARocked; 10-08-2010, 04:16 PM.
    Sittin on top of the world!
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  • #2
    Re: Boy lost his limbs, but kept his spirit and his football

    Incredible.


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    • #3
      Re: Boy lost his limbs, but kept his spirit and his football

      Originally posted by Trader Joe View Post
      Incredible.
      I thought so

      also sorry if I came off abusive in anyway, wasnt my intention

      were cool bro
      Sittin on top of the world!

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        Re: Boy lost his limbs, but kept his spirit and his football

        Bump
        Sittin on top of the world!

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        • #5
          Re: Boy lost his limbs, but kept his spirit and his football

          That boy seems wise beyond his years. I suppose a tragedy like that will do that to a soul.

          Inspiring!

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