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  • #31
    Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

    Originally posted by Since86 View Post
    So you're cool with giving money to a coke addict, so he can go score?

    As someone who's brother is a crack addict, who has made the choice to live on the streets and just get high......

    I'm not saying every homeless person is like that, I bet less than half, but like others have said, there's charities like Salvation Army where you can go.

    If for some odd reason I saw you, or anyone for that matter, giving my brother money I would make quite a public scene.

    They don't give a **** how they look to others. All they care about is scoring. If that means they have to beg you, they will not hesitate. Hell, they won't remember doing it 20mins later. If they have to rob you, they will. If they have to cut you while robbing you, they will.

    My brother has stolen and then sold my moms bike (after he rode it 10miles) to score. He's stolen my checkbook and withdrawn money from places like Marsh that don't ask for IDs anything less than $25. He's sold multiple cars that my parents bought him, he's stolen his "girlfriend's" truck and sold the tool box for the bed.

    If you want to "do good" for them. Then buy them food. Buy them clothes. Buy them other resources, but don't give them money.


    Addicts don't "detox," If they happen to sober up before they come down, they're looking for a way to get their next score.

    There's a reason why you don't see obese chronic addicts. It's because they will use that money to score before they buy food.
    Yes, crack loans are sad. I know of someone who has stolen his child's TV, along with multiple cell phones, video game systems, PCs, etc. All for cocaine.

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    • #32
      Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

      Perhaps I am a cold *******, but I do not like giving these guys any money.

      I understand **** happens, but normally I offer to buy them a burger if I am outside a restaurant, or pick them up a bag of chips if I am outside a grocery store.


      9 times out of 10 I get an "F you" or "really man, you can’t just throw $20 my way"


      I actually give a lot of charities I like (nothing but nets, special Olympics, I do a lot with the mentally challenged because of personal experiences I have had, etc) but I also was kind of frustrated/disappointed a few years ago when Fox 5 did a special on people in DC who have a FULL TIME JOB and still went around places in DC wearing only worn out bed sheets begging for money. One man admitted to making as much as $45,000 a year from pan-handling. That is disheartening for many reasons, not the least of which is the money he is taking away from people who really do not help.

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      • #33
        Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

        My father is the pastor of a church on East 38th st. I grew up in that church and have seen thousands of people come through asking for handouts. It used to be legitimate issues. Unwed pregnant girl gets kicked out of her parents house and can't find food. Now there are charities like WIC for that stuff. Personally I wish more people would rely on churches for this kind of stuff since it is part of what they do. Anymore though, we cannot give money. We offer to feed them or find them clothes. 9 of 10 will keep walking to the next church, and most of the final 10% will come with you and get upset when you say "that's all I got." I feel like a bouncer half the time because I have to sort through people before I let them in. Sounds horrible, right? I have no choice. My church is predominantly old people, and our old women (who almost all live off welfare) will give every last cent they have to help a person in need. MOST of these people don't care a hoot that they are taking this woman's money for food! Honestly, I want to help people, if for no other reason, than so I can feel like a hero and self-aggrandize, but it really is only enabling them to stay in their condition.

        Here's another frustrating story. I took my wife on a date (very rare) to PF Chang's downtown. It was the nicest restaurant we'd been to in forever. We actually splurged and ordered two separate meals instead of splitting like normal. Anywho, we ended up only eating one and boxing up the other for our dinner the next night (it makes the bill feel a little less painful). As soon as we walk out the door we are accosted by a dude asking for money for food. He said he had a little girl that was starving. I knew he was lying, but frankly I'm not gonna even take the chance that he wasn't because that would haunt me till my dying day. So I offered him the very expensive meal we had in a bag. The dude was mad that I didn't have any money! I said, "I'm going to pretend you didn't just do that," and we walked away.

        On the other hand I took my church youth group downtown one night and ran across a guy begging. I actually gave that guy $20 and he stood up and gave my kids a very good speech about avoiding sin because sin lead him to his situation. It came across very sincere and the kids actually responded to it which is a miracle for teenagers. That one was worth every penny no matter what the guy uses it for.

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        • #34
          Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

          First & foremost we have morphed this conversation away from the title. Panhandler, beggars, lazy freaking people was the title and nowhere did I see homeless.

          Being homeless and being one of the above are not one and the same.

          Just like there is a vast vast vast difference between being homeless and living on the streets.

          A lot of people are homeless, not all of them live on the streets.

          I can only speak for Indiana here but in Indiana we still have township governments. The township trustee is responsible for the indigent living within the township.

          A lot of people do not know that btw.

          In Indiana no one has to live on the streets. They either do so because they do not know the resources that are available to them or they have a mental illness that prevents them from finding the resources or they are impaired by addiction and do not either want to use the resources or they do not have the mental capacity to use the resources available to them.

          Resources btw include both government (townships) and private institutions (Salvation Army, etc.)

          However none of this has anything to do with panhandlers & beggars.

          I have had several experiences downtown in Indianapolis and several other cities’ I have visited. Nashville TN was a particularly troubling place for this.

          However the one I want to share with you is one right from the parking garage of the fieldhouse.

          Last year in early December we (my family & myself) are walking from our truck to the entrance of the fieldhouse via the 3rd floor bridge. As we were walking to the door to enter the bridge a woman who appeared to be in her late 40's to early 50's dressed in very nice cloths approaches me and tells me that she has locked herself out of her car and while she hated to ask me for this she needed to borrow $30.00 to pay for the locksmith to get her keys out of her car.

          Now while I have been approached several times from people wanting money I will say this one did not come across as a scam at first. She was well groomed, had on nice cloths we were at the fieldhouse to see the trans siberian orchestra so she appeared to be a fellow concert goer.

          So I actually fell for her story. But there is a twist to this our company's service truck happened to be about 10 blocks away so instead of reaching for my wallet I reached over and pulled out my cell phone. I thought I was doing a really good thing when she say's "what are you doing" I explain that I am calling for our company's service vehicle and that he would have her car unlocked in a jiffy and that there would be no charge for this.

          Well needless to say she starts back peddling about the story and now can't remember where her car is located. By this time my radar had kicked back on and I am now pretty much convinced that she is a scammer. When I offer to help her look for her car she turns around and goes down the ramp and when I try to follow her to help her look for her car she takes off running.

          I then go into the concert.

          Now fast-forward by about two weeks and I am going in at a Pacers game. Same woman walks up to me with the same exact story obviously forgetting that she has tried this on me before.

          When I say to her "you locked your keys in the car again" she gives me a curious look. I then inform her that she tried to pull this scam on me before to which she just turned around and walked away.

          However instead of leaving she went to the next group of people that was coming along. I was not about to let them get scammed so I actually followed her and told them that she had been pulling this scam for awhile. She actually threatened to call the cops on me for this saying I was harassing her so I said let's call them together shall we?

          However while I was doing this my wife went and got security from the fieldhouse who contacted security at the garage who came a running. She took off running again with security chasing. I never saw if they caught her or not but I know she has never been back.


          Basketball isn't played with computers, spreadsheets, and simulations. ChicagoJ 4/21/13

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          • #35
            Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

            Originally posted by Since86 View Post
            So you're cool with giving money to a coke addict, so he can go score?

            As someone who's brother is a crack addict, who has made the choice to live on the streets and just get high......

            I'm not saying every homeless person is like that, I bet less than half, but like others have said, there's charities like Salvation Army where you can go.

            If for some odd reason I saw you, or anyone for that matter, giving my brother money I would make quite a public scene.

            They don't give a **** how they look to others. All they care about is scoring. If that means they have to beg you, they will not hesitate. Hell, they won't remember doing it 20mins later. If they have to rob you, they will. If they have to cut you while robbing you, they will.

            My brother has stolen and then sold my moms bike (after he rode it 10miles) to score. He's stolen my checkbook and withdrawn money from places like Marsh that don't ask for IDs anything less than $25. He's sold multiple cars that my parents bought him, he's stolen his "girlfriend's" truck and sold the tool box for the bed.

            If you want to "do good" for them. Then buy them food. Buy them clothes. Buy them other resources, but don't give them money.


            Addicts don't "detox," If they happen to sober up before they come down, they're looking for a way to get their next score.

            There's a reason why you don't see obese chronic addicts. It's because they will use that money to score before they buy food.
            So basically, you're saying that addicts behave like addicts. I understand all that. If he's accosting me in the street, he's clearly not in a rehabilitative center, and he probably doesn't even want to kick it. I mean, really, what are the options here? I lock him in a room and say, Sorry buddy, no more crack for you!? He's addicted. Either he's going to score, or he'll end up dead or in jail because he did something stupid while trying to score. Either way, he'll have done it with five more bucks.

            I'm not concerned with "doing them good," at least not in this situation. I'm not their doctor, I'm not their pastor. If a guy asks me for some money because he's scrounging up the $ to score, I sure as hell ain't giving him a cheeseburger.

            You cannot always resolve a problem entirely. Judging some dude because he's an addict doesn't help anyone. He's got a pressing need: more crack. Okay. More than likely he's years away from his first serious attempt to quit. In the meantime he can have five bucks.
            You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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            • #36
              Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

              Originally posted by SoupIsGood View Post
              So basically, you're saying that addicts behave like addicts. I understand all that. If he's accosting me in the street, he's clearly not in a rehabilitative center, and he probably doesn't even want to kick it. I mean, really, what are the options here? I lock him in a room and say, Sorry buddy, no more crack for you!? He's addicted. Either he's going to score, or he'll end up dead or in jail because he did something stupid while trying to score. Either way, he'll have done it with five more bucks.

              I'm not concerned with "doing them good," at least not in this situation. I'm not their doctor, I'm not their pastor. If a guy asks me for some money because he's scrounging up the $ to score, I sure as hell ain't giving him a cheeseburger.

              You cannot always resolve a problem entirely. Judging some dude because he's an addict doesn't help anyone. He's got a pressing need: more crack. Okay. More than likely he's years away from his first serious attempt to quit. In the meantime he can have five bucks.
              I can not express in words how much I disagree with this attitude.

              To each their own though.

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              • #37
                Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                I honestly cannot believe you are willing to give people money to buy crack.

                I pray that you never have to deal with a close friend or relative with a high end addiction like crack, because you will be in for a very rude awakening. It seriously makes me sick to my stomach after reading that.

                You might as well go buy it for them, and hold the lighter so they can smoke it. I've hoped for many years that the news would come that my brother had OD'd or has gotten busted enough time that he will never leave prison. That's a cold hard reality to wish that your own flesh and blood will somehow leave society so the mental and phsyical anguish I watch my mother go through will lessen or somehow stop all together.

                No matter how long you convince yourself, you are NOT helping the situation the slightest.

                I regret openning this thread.
                Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right.” ― Ricky Gervais.

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                • #38
                  Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                  I remember sitting in Mongolian BBQ and a guy came up in the restaurant and gave us this sob story about how his car was out of gas and his daughter was having a baby. I quickly told him we did not have any money for him because I recognized him from the days I worked at this local library when I was in college. He did the same story outside the library!

                  He got mad at us and stormed off and then next thing I know he is hitting up another family that is across the restaurant.

                  The manager eventually removed him.

                  I try to help the ones who are of need by donating clothes to the Salvation Army and offering to buy a sandwich or something, but I will never give money to a homeless person.

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                  • #39
                    Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                    Peck, I enjoyed your story involving the woman who I suspect was pretty good at getting $30 a pop. if she got 3 people to buy her story that is $90 - not too bad for 30 mins of work.

                    The sad thing is next time someone is truly in a bind and needs some help you are going to be a lot less likely to believe that person and much less likely to help.

                    I've been approached by people at gas stations and they give me their story about losing their wallets, needing just $5.00 for gas to get home. I always just say no, but I do wonder if someday someone who does truly need $5.00 to get home and I turn them away, and you know I would be more than happy to help someone who isn't scamming.

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                    • #40
                      Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                      I heard about this one guy this one time who tried to scam the cable company out of NBA League Pass. Luckily their radar was on and they saw through his charade......
                      PSN: MRat731 XBL: MRat0731

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                      • #41
                        Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                        Originally posted by travmil View Post
                        I was coming out of a Blockbuster once on the west side of Indy. It was Christmas eve 2002 and I had just started the job I still have today which I was very fortunate to get. I was still getting established and had little money though and was only carrying $2 after renting a couple movies. I came out and a guy hit me up with his sob story. "I'm from Michigan and trying to get to Bloomington to see my daughter for Christmas but my car here is out of gas blah blah blah". I sat there for a few seconds and listened and started to reach for my wallet but something stopped me. He had pointed at a car that was close by the door when he said "my car here". So I asked him "your car here? As in this car right here?" pointing to the same one he had pointed at. He said yeah. I said "I only have two bucks on me but If you can open this car I'll give it to you". He just turned and walked away. It wasn't his car and he obviously didn't have the keys for it. I get the desperation. I get that folks need money. But there are plenty of welfare programs that we all contribute to. Use them. That's what they're there for.
                        How funny would it have been if he had pointed at your car?

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                        • #42
                          Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                          Originally posted by Since86 View Post
                          I honestly cannot believe you are willing to give people money to buy crack.

                          I pray that you never have to deal with a close friend or relative with a high end addiction like crack, because you will be in for a very rude awakening. It seriously makes me sick to my stomach after reading that.

                          You might as well go buy it for them, and hold the lighter so they can smoke it. I've hoped for many years that the news would come that my brother had OD'd or has gotten busted enough time that he will never leave prison. That's a cold hard reality to wish that your own flesh and blood will somehow leave society so the mental and phsyical anguish I watch my mother go through will lessen or somehow stop all together.

                          No matter how long you convince yourself, you are NOT helping the situation the slightest.

                          I regret openning this thread.
                          Already have dealt with it. And of course it's different when they are your friend or family. You've got more options.

                          I'm talking about a random guy in the street. "Hey man, can you spare like five bucks?" This isn't about helping. If I'm not helping by giving him money, neither are you by not giving $--nor by giving him a precious sandwich. It's a ****ed up situation, and the chances of this random dude ever escaping his misery are slim. If I can afford to part with the money, I give. If I can't or am feeling incredibly *****y that day, I don't.

                          As for the "you might as well hold the lighter for them" junk--please.

                          As for the more general question of giving at all—once I gave a beggar in Broad Ripple $10. She then asked for a ride to a grocery store so I took her. She came out with a sackful of milk, bread, and lunchmeat, and I took her home. On her way home we stopped by all the nearby church food-giveaway charities, and they all came up dry.

                          A decent % of these people just want to eat. She was also obviously mentally ill—I think she said bipolar?—so it's not like she could just "deal."

                          Eventually we got her set up with social services, so, woohoo. Of course doing the same thing--giving a dude a ride somewhere--also almost got me killed by a crazy guy w/ a knife once, so, you know, I might be an idiot. But your money doesn't always go to waste! And personally, the scammers are super-easy to spot. [Their cycles and routines are just toweringly dumb.] Just don't give to them!
                          Last edited by SoupIsGood; 08-31-2010, 01:31 PM.
                          You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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                          • #43
                            Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                            Can we get away from the druggie stuff, please?

                            This wasn't about them, and this area isn't something I really care to have discussed here.\

                            Thanks.

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                            • #44
                              Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                              Originally posted by MagicRat View Post
                              I heard about this one guy this one time who tried to scam the cable company out of NBA League Pass. Luckily their radar was on and they saw through his charade......
                              LOL that is just so wrong.

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                              • #45
                                Re: Panhandlers, beggars, lazy freakin' people .......

                                In high school my father had pirated directv. That was pretty awesome!
                                You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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