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    The Flyer Group

    Brenda Holmes

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    August 18, 2010

    Sideline reporter helps Sheltering Wings
    Pacers staffer shares domestic violence story
    By Brenda L. Holmes
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    DANVILLE — DANVILLE — Stacy Paetz is known as a high energy, self-confident sideline reporter for the Indiana Pacers. She now shares her personal experience with domestic violence to help Sheltering Wings.

    “My purpose with the campaign is to get the word our there,” Paetz said. “The more knowledge we have the more strength we have. And Sheltering Wings represents that.”

    Sheltering Wings, the domestic violence shelter for women and their dependent children, has announced plans to expand its current facility.

    The shelter opened its doors in January 2002. At that time, the staff felt the shelter could accommodate 44 women and children, which would service the Hendricks County community.

    The number of abused women and children has continued to rise in the area, and because of the need the staff and governing body have decided it’s time to raise funds and expand to solve overcrowding issues.

    Paetz is co-chairing the fundraising portion of the project with Angela Ganote, a news anchor from FOX 59.

    She was invited to tour the shelter just a two short years ago by Executive Director Maria Larrison.

    “Walking into the shelter was very emotional for me,” Paetz said. “For the longest time I didn’t share my story. They just knew me as a girl from television with a good personality and character.”

    “Maria had no idea I had a personal story until I told her,” she said. “And I have never spoken of it publicly until this campaign started.”

    She said her abuse came from a boyfriend when she was still a teenager — a freshman in college.

    “First it was name calling,” Paetz said. “And of course I knew it wasn’t right. I knew I didn’t deserve it.”

    She said she started feeling shame for allowing this man to degrade her.

    “Then he started threatening me and it very quickly turned into actual violence,” Paetz said. “He would threaten to punch me, then he would punch or shove me down.”

    She said he would require her to come to his dorm every day to make sure she was dressed appropriately.

    “I’ve never been a revealing dresser but he wanted me in sweat pants and sweat shirts,” she said. “He didn’t want anyone looking at me.”

    Paetz said she knew what was happening was abuse but lost her self-esteem.

    “I felt that I was a strong person,” she said. “I was a good student, a three-sport athlete, and had a loving family. He would tell me it was my fault when he lost control ... and I believed him.”

    Her abuser told her if she ever left him he would, “mess me up so bad nobody else would want me. He even threatened to kill me.”

    She had a childhood friend who was murdered by her ex-finacé.

    “I knew she was in an abusive relationship just like me,” Paetz said. “I would plan for us both to break up with our boyfriends together.”

    A friend called Paetz after the murder and said, “Stacy, we thought it was you.”

    She said this was a turning point in her life. Paetz had been in the abusive relationship for three and a half years.

    “When she was killed it was a major reality check,” she said. “The closer I got to the Lord the more I realized I had the power to make a change in my life.”

    At this point, her boyfriend had graduated from college and was living in another state.

    “I broke up with him over the phone,” she said. “I kept the conversation very matter-of-fact, and asked him not to call me back.”

    She said he didn’t listen and called her “every 10 minutes for the next two weeks.”

    Paetz said when she hung up from the phone call to break up she was greeted by her younger brother with applause.

    “My little brother was 10 or 11, but he has always had a strong sense of wisdom,” she said. “When I walked out my baby brother was clapping and said, ‘You are finally away from that guy. He was so mean to you. He was not a nice guy.’”

    She said her brother knew nothing of the physical violence, only of the verbal abuse he had witnessed.

    “Shortly after that I was a new person,” Paetz said. “I don’t even know that girl anymore. It was very liberating.”

    Paetz said she would love to talk to teens about her experiences. She wants them to know there is always a way out and there are places like Sheltering Wings what will help.

    That’s why she has become involved in fundraising for the expansion project.

    “When I first toured the shelter I felt so safe,” she said.

    Since then she’s become a strong supporter for the shelter and its mission.

    “Sheltering Wings is one of those amazing places with amazing individuals with such big hearts and the willingness and the desire to help women get out of situations they didn’t feel they could get out of,” she said.

    “This is a place where they can go not only to feel safe and protected but also to learn that they can be the women they want to be. And live the lives they are supposed to live,” she added.

    The fundraising project is just now moving into the public phase where the community is being asked to help.

    As of Aug. 1, $2.35 million has been raised toward the campaign goal of $3.5 million. These funds were raised during the silent phase of the campaign. The United Way has made a commitment of $1 million of funding and the Federal Home Loan Bank has added $750,000 to the campaign.

    The campaign is a three-year project with several giving options to support it. These options may be accessed online at www.shelteringwings.org/newbeginnings or by calling 718-0735.

    They are:

    * Monetary Donations — Pledge letters are available online and one-time or recurring donation options are given. Naming opportunities are also available.

    * Paver Project — The new courtyard will provide a safe place for the families who live here at the shelter. A total of nearly 9,000 small or 4,500 large pavers are needed to fill it. Order forms are available online or by calling the shelter.

    * Furnishing Registry — Once the expansion is completed furnishings will be needed. A list of these needs is being developed and will be available online this fall.

    brenda.holmes@flyergroup.com

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    Good for Stacy. Glad to hear she has overcome something like that. Also unfortunate to hear about her friend.

    I've always liked Stacy. The few times I've met her she's been really nice and friendly, and I think she's done a great job taking over for Scott Hoke as the Pacers Sideline/Post-Game Reporter. I hope for nothing but good things for her down the road. Tremendous gal.

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    Interesting timing.
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    I must find her ex-boyfriend and destroy him. No one hurts my Stacy!!
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    My level of respect for Stacey Paetz just increased substantially.

    It took real courage to come out with this story, especially with this being a local hot-button topic now, and in a way that may make some members of the public do the right thing with respect to their own personal lives due to this having been shared voluntarily, whether it is people choosing to leave abusive relationships or people who are being abusive coming to a realization that their actions are wrong. I realize that the second part regarding a realization that their actions are wrong is a stretch and pretty unrealistic, though.

    Even with the timing of it making it very likely to be pr motivated due to her strong association with the Pacers, it still is a very positive contribution to the community in my opinion.

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    Am I the only one who doesn't like Stacey Paetz at all? I'm sure she might be a cool person, but I really don't like her as a sideline/post-game/anything else reporter.

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    Am I the only one who doesn't like Stacey Paetz at all? I'm sure she might be a cool person, but I really don't like her as a sideline/post-game/anything else reporter.
    I didn't wanna say it during the love-fest, but I agree with you....never really liked her reporting. Sorry guys...

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    Am I the only one who doesn't like Stacey Paetz at all? I'm sure she might be a cool person, but I really don't like her as a sideline/post-game/anything else reporter.
    I'm not really listening to her when she talks...her looks are very distracting. I'm always trying to figure out if I think she is hot or not to telll you the true. My wife often chimes in on that topic too. She is very handsome is the verdict. I guess I should go look at some recordings and judge her reporting.

    ..and yes, my respect level is definitely higher for her now too.

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    “I broke up with him over the phone,” she said. “I kept the conversation very matter-of-fact, and asked him not to call me back.”

    She said he didn’t listen and called her “every 10 minutes for the next two weeks.”
    Hmm...telling someone not to talk to you again and then having to deal with constant phone calls. Someone should tell Stacy that this sort of behavior causes vasoconstriction and that she's bringing it onto herself if it leads the man to show up at her house at 5AM.

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    I must find her ex-boyfriend and destroy him. No one hurts my Stacy!!
    Lets put a contract out on him. It doesn't matter whether you like her side line reporting (in which I do). What matters is she's part of the Pacers team, and didn't deserve this.
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    lets send Lance after Paetz's ex
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    I am now an even bigger Stacy fan.

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    I think she's sexy.

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    It's too bad we didn't know about this while Jackson, Tinsley, and Daniels were still here. All we would have had to do was find her ex-boyfriend at a shady night club or strip joint the evening before a big game and he would have been doomed.

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    I didn't like Stacy at first but she's grown on me. She's pretty cool. Has even sent me a few direct messages on twitter. Yeah we're bffs. I need to stop posting at 4 am.
    Great story. Glad she's come through it. Hopefully they exceed their fund raising goal
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    Am I the only one who doesn't like Stacey Paetz at all? I'm sure she might be a cool person, but I really don't like her as a sideline/post-game/anything else reporter.
    I don't really care about her one way or another. She's just there...

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    I think she's an excellent broadcaster and commentator. I've been highly impressed.

    So . . . this just came out amidst the Lance stuff? What's the deal, I wonder.
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    Interesting timing.
    Anyone else think the timing is intentional?

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    Anyone else think the timing is intentional?


    Of course its intentional! There's been domestic cases before but this one has way more attention than the others because of how the Pacers are now which is terrible.

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    I don't have any problem with a recent news story generating a discussion on domestic violence.

    I was about to say "now is as good a time as any for this article," but that's not quite right. Now is actually a better time than just some random tuesday next year. Her connection with the team in addition to the allegations equals an opportunity to give a voice to women who have literally been beaten into silence.

    Before anyone says this article is unfair to Lance, I would recommend a re-read. Stephenson is not mentioned.
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    Am I the only one who doesn't like Stacey Paetz at all? I'm sure she might be a cool person, but I really don't like her as a sideline/post-game/anything else reporter.
    She is a really nice person. And she has really improved over the years at her job. I am OK with her now in her job. Is she great?, No, but for a local sideline reporter she is OK.

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    Stacy wants people to know that the timing of her story coming out is completely unrelated to the Lance Stephenson allegations. She was interviewed for this months ago, and the story is coming out now to help with fundraising for the Sheltering Wings expansion.

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    I think she's sexy.
    I think she's smokin and would ask her out if only she and my wife would approve.

    Stupid social constraints and morality.


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    Stupid social Constraints And Morality.

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    I think she's smokin and would ask her out if only she and my wife would approve.

    Stupid social constraints and morality.


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    She is hot but my wife is hotter. Similar builds but my wife is smoking hot....but I enjoy watching her show those nice HAMS from time to time....heh, heh, heh.

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