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Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

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  • Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

    I just received the monthly bill from AT&T for the good old land line. Usually the bill is pretty uneventful, since we use our cell phones for everything except our internet service and long distance for my wife's home office, which is reimbursed by her company. This time however it had over 2 grand in international calling charges.

    My first reaction was "WTF, somebody hacked my phone number and ran up huge bills"

    Then the nagging realization came to me that back in March the 18-year-old boyfriend of my 16-year-old daughter went to Africa for a month on a missionary trip. My daughter perhaps did make all of the phone calls, 10 hours over 3 days. When confronted, she claimed that her boyfriend's grandfather had a prepaid international calling card and that is what she used. Well... that may be just a lie, I don't know. But she probably did make all of those calls somehow. The bill is now due. Her calling card excuse makes sense, because we would have noticed her tieing up the landline for 10 hours. Unless we were all asleep, which is possible-- the calls were between 7AM and noon, but if that is the time in Zambia, it would have been between 1AM and 6AM EST, and everyone but my daughter would presumably be asleep and not noticing her being on the freakin' phone.

    My question, if a minor is able to rack up huge charges, that are apparently real, is there any recourse to dispute those charges? Probbaly not, I guess, and morally we are responsible for the calls, even though the rate was incredible.

    Just asking for people's thoughts. Any experience with a kid racking up a huge charge, possibly by accident?
    The poster "pacertom" since this forum began (and before!). I changed my name here to "Slick Pinkham" in honor of the imaginary player That Bobby "Slick" Leonard picked late in the 1971 ABA draft (true story!).

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    Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

    Wow, I almost feel like they should warn you if the charges are going to be that high.

    Like hey, you've now been on a call to Africa for 10 hours, you do realize you have now spent TWENTY FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS, right?


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      Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

      I'd find that "prepaid intl calling card" and find out how much it was used, or if it was used at all... and also HOW your daughter used it (just to see if she didn't properly use it in the first place... or quickly used up the minutes on it... or the card maybe didn't get properly billed by the ATT in the first place).

      Dunno what I'd do ultimately but the first place I'd start is knowing everything about that calling card and knowing everything your daughter can tell me about her usage of that calling card.
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        Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

        Thanks everyone.

        My guess is that my daughter is being umm... less than truthful and there never was any phonecard.

        She won't throw him under the bus, but I'd bet that the boyfriend, while in Africa and when he had internet access, IM'ed her or posted on facebook, telling her to call him at a specific number, and perhaps that he got a "deal" on the phone call. That seems most likely, but next to impossible to prove and pin him for any liability.

        Next I have to find a way to impress upon a 16-year-old girl who didn't bother to look for a summer job that she has to come up with a way to pay us back over 2 grand.
        Last edited by Slick Pinkham; 06-28-2010, 05:19 PM.
        The poster "pacertom" since this forum began (and before!). I changed my name here to "Slick Pinkham" in honor of the imaginary player That Bobby "Slick" Leonard picked late in the 1971 ABA draft (true story!).

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          Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

          I have nothing more useful to add under the circumstances than "bend over" as advice. Bball's right - try to figure out as much as you can about the alleged card. Your best bet is to try to find some indicator that AT&T improperly or fraudulently billed you. But under what you seemed to think happened, that's tough.

          Either way, I'd call and argue with AT&T until they call the cops. What more could they do?

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            Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

            i experienced a similar situation when i was young...i wont go in to details but a certain 15 year old ended up bringing home a $1000 phone bill in one month...once we had pleaded the case, the phone company did not cancel the charge but were "nice" enough to divide it into smaller bills for 10 months...

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              Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

              Yup, if she did make the calls, then you need to foot the bill.

              Ask her straight up. Ask her to produce the calling card. You should be able to find out from AT&T what exact numbers have been called from your phone, I believe.

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                Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                Originally posted by btowncolt View Post
                Either way, I'd call and argue with AT&T until they call the cops. What more could they do?
                Ruin your credit.

                PS - a number of "calling cards" that people think are legit are actually scam systems, you dial a number which then connects you to another number at an additional charge and then the home line gets charged for everything anyway.

                Calling cards that are too good to be true are in fact too good to be true.

                Best course of action is to beg and plead with the phone company, they can maybe lower the cost by retroactively enrolling you in an international calling plan and then they can make a payment arrangement.

                Oh, and make sure the daughter pays a percentage of the bill by mowing the lawn all summer.
                “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston Churchill

                “If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning.” - Catherine Aird

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                  Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                  make sure she pays a percentage like 100% by giving you money.

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                    Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                    Originally posted by Los Angeles View Post
                    Ruin your credit.
                    I was assuming he wasn't going to go so far as to refuse to pay under all circumstances and seduce the CEO's granddaughter.

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                      Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                      Well... the other option is to play dumb with ATT in questioning the charges and see what they tell you. I'm sure if you mention there's even a chance the calls came from your house then "EVERYTHING" ATT has will 'confirm' that... ... Even if there has been some kind of fraudulent billing going on that they are aware of you probably will get no benefit of the doubt if you let them know you even suspect the calls might be legit.

                      So pretend you don't know how they would've came from your house. If they come back and say they had to have, and your daughter gives you reason to believe she did make some/all the phone calls... then you're pretty much on the hook... Tell ATT you're going to speak with your daughter and tell her what ATT is saying. And ask ATT if she did make these calls if you have any options. Such as what LA mentioned... or some type of payment plan... Anything would be better than getting that 2K slap all at once.

                      I have no idea how you get 2000.00 from a turnip. ...And if your daughter has no job that would be about the same thing. BUT... a turnip can't do chores and your daughter can...

                      Maybe have a family yard sale and mark off some of the debt for your daughter helping with it and more of the debt with the things of her's that she can part with that you can sell.

                      EDIT: BTW- I wouldn't force her to sell any of her stuff. ...But you might let her know how serious you are about being paid back so that she does try to find enough items to sell to make a dent in the bill... or at least a dent in the first payment.
                      Last edited by Bball; 06-28-2010, 08:03 PM.
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                        Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                        Originally posted by Bball View Post
                        Well... the other option is to play dumb with ATT in questioning the charges and see what they tell you. I'm sure if you mention there's even a chance the calls came from your house then "EVERYTHING" ATT has will 'confirm' that... ... Even if there has been some kind of fraudulent billing going on that they are aware of you probably will get no benefit of the doubt if you let them know you even suspect the calls might be legit.

                        So pretend you don't know how they would've came from your house. If they come back and say they had to have, and your daughter gives you reason to believe she did make some/all the phone calls... then you're pretty much on the hook... Tell ATT you're going to speak with your daughter and tell her what ATT is saying. And ask ATT if she did make these calls if you have any options. Such as what LA mentioned... or some type of payment plan... Anything would be better than getting that 2K slap all at once.

                        I have no idea how you get 2000.00 from a turnip. ...And if your daughter has no job that would be about the same thing. BUT... a turnip can't do chores and your daughter can...

                        Maybe have a family yard sale and mark off some of the debt for your daughter helping with it and more of the debt with the things of her's that she can part with that you can sell.

                        EDIT: BTW- I wouldn't force her to sell any of her stuff. ...But you might let her know how serious you are about being paid back so that she does try to find enough items to sell to make a dent in the bill... or at least a dent in the first payment.
                        Manual labor. Lots and lots of it. She'll learn. She might hate him for a bit, but she'll learn.

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                          Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                          I would call AT&T and see if they would be willing to cut you some slack on the bill.

                          I had an ex-girlfriend who on occasion would get crazy with roaming and long distance charges on our cell phone plan. Nothing in the $2500 dollar range, but almost $1000 one month. I called Sprint and let them know the situation, to see what could be done about paying off that huge debt. To my surprise, the Sprint rep was happy to just abolish the bill altogether, aside from the standard monthly fee. After speaking with her a while, she informed me that she could wipe out a phone bill no problem, so long as I don't do it more than once a year.

                          So I would say it is worth a call. Just be polite and respectable, and they may be more than glad to help, especially if you are a long time customer.

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                            Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                            Peripheral issue:


                            Why did the kid go all that way in order to talk to his girlfriend on the phone?


                            I have the experience of being host to very many Christian youth groups on "mission" trips. Some of them did some good work. Many did not.

                            (My favorite story is of a bunch of soft California kids. While coming over the mountain pass leading to where I lived, two of them got nosebleeds from the altitude and dry air. And then the girl sitting between them passed out from the sight of blood. that bunch arrived feeling victimized and emotionally spent, and accomplished nothing.)

                            I suggest you also talk to the leaders of the "mission" trip and ask why the kid had so much free time when he wasn't working or with the group. It won't help pay your bill, but it will help them realize they didn't manage the trip very well.

                            (Where did the group go to? Africa is a continent with over 50 countries in it.)
                            And I won't be here to see the day
                            It all dries up and blows away
                            I'd hang around just to see
                            But they never had much use for me
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                              Re: Question for the lawyers or Holiday Inn express guests: my $2500 phone bill

                              I think first you need to decide if you really do owe the bill. But even if you determine that you do, I would try to work something out with At&T. If nothing else a payment plan free of interest.

                              And no they aren't going to call the cops. Worst thing is they ruin your credit rating, send to a collection agency, but if they already do that chances are you can settle for 40% - 50% of the original bill

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