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My daughter wants to join the navy

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  • #16
    Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

    I don't mean to be blunt, but your daughter is most likely way too smart for U of E. You're really intelligent yourself, and if she's a chip off the old block to any extent, she needs a more intellectually challenging environment. I'm not knocking on U of E at all because some really smart people from my high school went there but some of the people there probably quite aren't up to her level.

    Try to get her to look at Kelley as Indy said, or maybe even an intellectually challenging liberal arts school like DePauw or even a bigger challenging school like Notre Dame. Or maybe even Georgetown, I'm sure being a legacy helps? Or, honestly, if she shows any interest in going to DC and likes the looks of George Washington, let me know, I worked for the university and have contacts there. A big city school and all of the intellectual events in a big city might help. I know the Navy will give her structure, but I am not sure it will give her the intellectual challenge you are alluding that she needs.

    I don't know much about the Navy but committing to anything at 18 is kind of a crapshoot.
    Last edited by idioteque; 07-02-2008, 12:14 PM.

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    • #17
      Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

      I have to agree with DCPacersfan. One of my close friends/roommates was in the Navy during college and the kind of things he did don't seem to align with the type of things your daughter seems to be looking for.

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      • #18
        Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

        You can sail the seven seas
        You can put your mind at ease

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        • #19
          Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

          These are all good comments. I don't think it is my business to talk her out of it, but I need to make her think very carefully. I appreciate the comments from both sides here. On the one hand, some of you are saying she should refocus on college and maybe a more challenging program like Krannert at Purdue. Others are saying the navy could be good, but be sure and ask ALL the questions.



          The kid was accepted to Notre Dame, by the way. She chose UE because she liked the study-in-England program they have there and because Notre Dame costs $40K a year.

          I think her biggest concern is she wants to do something REAL. As much as I try to talk about the real economy and the workings of society at the dinner table each evening, she still is more attuned to novels than current events. (It didn't help that we raised her in a foreign country.) So "reality" to her is Jack Aubrey, Jack Sparrow and Elizabeth Swann, the crews of Farscape and Firefly, etc.

          She has the idea that she isn't really good at anything (at the adult level) and she likes the way the military promises to each everything necessary to do the job.


          You can sail the seven seas
          You can put your mind at ease
          You mean I don't have to worry about another Tailhook episode, then?
          Last edited by Putnam; 07-02-2008, 02:14 PM.
          And I won't be here to see the day
          It all dries up and blows away
          I'd hang around just to see
          But they never had much use for me
          In Levelland. (James McMurtry)

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          • #20
            Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

            As most of you know my son is interviewing his colleges right now. I thank those with the comments about U of E because he brought that one up yesterday as having a good music school. However, he is also carrying a 4.3 GPA in High Honors program at Cathedral....so I'm going to warn him about the boredom issue. In fact, I think I'll let him read the thread.
            Thanks again.

            One thing tho.....she does realize that whatever college she goes to there will be alot of downtime between classes, right? I mean, that's not ONLY U of E like that. This isn't like the HS she may have been used to....7 hrs of classes and then go home.
            Ever notice how friendly folks are at a shootin' range??.

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            • #21
              Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

              Originally posted by indygeezer View Post
              As most of you know my son is interviewing his colleges right now. I thank those with the comments about U of E because he brought that one up yesterday as having a good music school. However, he is also carrying a 4.3 GPA in High Honors program at Cathedral....so I'm going to warn him about the boredom issue. In fact, I think I'll let him read the thread.
              Thanks again.

              One thing tho.....she does realize that whatever college she goes to there will be alot of downtime between classes, right? I mean, that's not ONLY U of E like that. This isn't like the HS she may have been used to....7 hrs of classes and then go home.
              True, but most colleges make up for that by making sure you have a lot of work to do outside of the classroom.


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              • #22
                Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                Originally posted by indygeezer View Post
                One thing tho.....she does realize that whatever college she goes to there will be alot of downtime between classes, right? I mean, that's not ONLY U of E like that. This isn't like the HS she may have been used to....7 hrs of classes and then go home.
                That's why you drink.
                Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right.” ― Ricky Gervais.

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                • #23
                  Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                  The downtime is great though. When else would you actually learn things? Unless you're in an uberspecialized program (like I imagine some of the business, pharmacy, etc. programs are) that features THE THING that you really want to learn most about, classes are usually a nuisance. Especially with some of the majors that can very easily become a nonrigorous, bull****ty kind of thing--like, say, English. I die a little inside everytime I have to sit through a Melville class and listen to everyone yap on about how his sentences are just too long, man.
                  You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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                  • #24
                    Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                    When I first saw this thread, the title was truncated to "My daughter wants to join the..." and I made up the rest before I clicked on it. I came up with "...the French Foreign Legion." The US Navy doesn't sound too bad compared to that.

                    Classic boredom? I too wonder if daily life in the Navy isn't boring as well.

                    The freshman year is really just the pits. You get crappy courses, crappy instructors. It improves later. It does sound though that she would prefer to be focused on one thing -- cryptology -- and there's a lot of merit in wanting that. It would make her feel that she's doing something more important than reading the same book for the 4th time. Surely it would help her self-esteem and confidence, two things usually lacking at that age and a good military background would certainly help her decide what to do next.

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                    • #25
                      Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                      Originally posted by Putnam View Post

                      I think her biggest concern is she wants to do something REAL.
                      I think in this case you need to advise her to be patient. She is encountering something every ambitious kid in their early twenties or late teens encounters: the fact that you think you're pretty smart and understand complex issues, but you're still too young and inexperienced for anyone to trust you to do any substantiative work that will allow you to utilize your skills in the real world.

                      Maybe she would be helped by some summer internships in a big city or something like that? There are a lot of programs in places like NYC, DC, and LA that would allow her to utilize some of her skills in a real world environment.

                      She has the idea that she isn't really good at anything (at the adult level) and she likes the way the military promises to each everything necessary to do the job.
                      She may not have all the practical skills she needs right now but with how you've described her before, there's a 99.9% chance those will develop over time with internships and other opportunities to utilize practical skills.

                      I just don't think the Navy would be that intellectually satisfactory for her. As smart as she seems to be she would be better served intellectually at U of E, or even a school like Notre Dame. She should apply to schools like that as a transfer student and see what kind of aid she gets. But all just MHO of course.

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                      • #26
                        Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                        I was actually a transfer...my life just completely changed after I transferred - one of the best decisions of my life.

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                        • #27
                          Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                          Almost transfered from IU for similar reasons, but ended up staying because going from paying $0.00 to more than $0.00 was not appealing. After the first year, I found more classes suited to my needs and was never as unhappy as I was that first year.

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                          • #28
                            Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                            Yeah I agree, she's probably not going to be too "intellectually stimulated" in the Navy. Try a different school or tell her to get a hobby to fill the time. God forbid have some fun in college.

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                            • #29
                              Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                              Putnam, I would highly, highly recommend her watching this:

                              http://www.pbs.org/weta/carrier/

                              It's a 10-hour documentary about a 6-month cruise of the USS Nimitz that was filmed a couple years ago. They spend a little time with the fighter pilots and the officers, but the vast majority is spent with the grunts, from the people who arm and launch the fighters to the cooks and garbagemen. All types of people, the lifers to the kids with nowhere else to go; those who love it to those incredibly disillusioned about the war and their place in it.

                              It covers everything you could imagine about ship life, from religion to sex life (not that you want to hear about that.) But there are themes that they keep coming back to. Yes, there is structure, and there's definitely hard work. But along with that is the monotony and the loneliness.

                              You can get the DVD or try and catch it in repeats, but looks like they've got the whole thing streamed on the website.
                              Come to the Dark Side -- There's cookies!

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                              • #30
                                Re: My daughter wants to join the navy

                                I've been meaning to bump this and thank everyone who replied. Thanks especially to Kegboy for suggesting the documentary, which was very good.

                                The kid enlists tomorrow. She'll be deferred until her braces come off, and then . . .





                                Don't ask what I think about her decision.
                                And I won't be here to see the day
                                It all dries up and blows away
                                I'd hang around just to see
                                But they never had much use for me
                                In Levelland. (James McMurtry)

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