Well, she's more than my grandmother; she's closer to being a third parent. She lived next door to my parents my whole life.
She's undergoing chemotherapy for non-Hodgkin's lymphoma and chronic lymphocytic leukemia (both relatively slow progressing cancers). A couple of treatments ago, she developed anemia, they did a blood transfusion, and she felt much better. When I went home last weekend, she was pretty weak. I figured when she went in for chemo Monday they'd find she had anemia again (which she did), give her a blood transfusion (which they did), and she'd bounce back like she did last time (which she didn't).
She's been hospitalized. She apparently had pulmonary edema (I think) from excess fluid from her transfusion. Her veins collapsed and they've essentially mainlined her. Now her pulse is 180 and they don't know what's going on. Tomorrow she's going in for (as my Dad said) "very, very risky" diagnostic procedures.
This is, as you can imagine, very distressing. Although my grandmother just turned 87 on Monday, she's been relatively healthy. It was only a couple of years ago we were able to convince her to stop mowing the freakin' lawn. And although no cancer is good, her cancers were slow progressing and the doctors were taking a wait and watch approach until she was recruited for this experimental treatment (the drugs aren't experimental, it's the combination that's being tested).
I don't know if I should miss work and go to the hospital tomorrow or wait until Saturday. I miss more work than I should and I've been trying to improve that, especially since I'm trying to get the permanent position (although I've probably got it anyway). I don't have benefits, so I'll miss the day's wages (but that's not especially important). School starts Monday, but it hasn't been excessively busy this week and they can probably function without me.
I think, if I don't go and something serious happens, I'll hate myself for going to work. But if I go, I'll probably be in the way. I visited last weekend and I spoke to her on the phone Tuesday. What should I do?