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Now, does the above cover absolutely every single kind of distraction that is unwanted? Probably not, but you should by now have a good idea of the general types of things we will be discouraging. The above examples are meant to give you a good feel for / idea of what we're looking for. If something new or different than the above happens to come along and results in the same problem (that being, any other attitude or behavior that ultimately distracts from actually just discussing the topic at hand, or that is otherwise disrespectful to other posters), we can and we will take action to curb this as well, so please don't take this to mean that if you managed to technically avoid saying something exactly like one of the above examples that you are then somehow off the hook.

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  • Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

    First off, let me start by saying I say most of this in humor, but ALL of this is true and did happen to me. I really have mellowed out lately, so I don’t care anymore, but its still kind of funny.

    So I have become pretty close with one of our summer, but as of right now we are just friends. We aren’t really dating, and we have had some issues that people know about, but I don’t care about that. She is a chill young lady, and a hotty, so I will put up with some baggage right now, esp. since I have been laying low and staying out of trouble a lot.


    So enter into the picture, we have a new girl who works in my building. I had worked with her one day, and she seemed real cool. She is exactly what I am attracted to; calm, quite, reserved, really nice, respectful, short, hot, and smiles a lot. I talked to her a lot, but we were nothing. Still aren’t, but I digress.

    Well I got to know her and we went to Kings Dominion a few weeks ago and we invited her, but she said she ddidn’thave any cash and she didn’t want to ask her BF for some cause then he would want to come.

    Well then my friend started talking to her. We will call him “dude A”. He became a friend with her, and she actually went as far as to see me in the building and refer to me as “boyfriend”. It was kind of awkward at first, but I just kind of went with it.

    Well I worked with her again, and we flirted a little but, but nothing serious. Well then a few weeks ago (2.5) she came up and was talking to us and kind of mentioned how she had broken up with her boyfriend.

    “Dude A” started talking to her a little more, and since I only work 3 days a week I never knew what all was said about me. I didn’t care, cause me and “dude A” are really good friends, but he does like to run his mouth.

    Well she started harassing me about the intern who I have become friends with, she cant stand the girl. Anyway, I left out for vacation last week, well a semi-vacation, but anyway dude A left for vacation last week and so I came back this week and granted she was sick but she did not really say anything to me. I saw her for a minute today, but she didn’t speak to me, she was talking to a friend of mine.

    Dude A told me the other day that he went up to her and told her I wanted to “get in her pants”. Her response was supposedly “in his dream” or “he only wishes”

    Now I couldn’t say anything to defend myself to her because I am not supposed to know he told her this, but it has been real awkward. My other friends know I was mad as **** about it, and dude A gets back on Monday.

    We are going back to Kings Dominion next week, and she was invited to come down with us, so well see how all of this plays out.

    Like I said, I don’t really care, I don’t want any more drama (ok, at least not for a now) but I thought it was a funny story. A incredibly sad story, but still funny (till I kill him when I see him on Monday)

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    Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

    Dude A sounds like someone that you need not be friends with.


    About what he said, I wouldn't worry about it. Just be yourself, and if she's smart she'll make her own judgements and not rely on what some sleazo says.
    You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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    • #3
      Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

      Well Soup, thats part of dealing with people who you know are going to be around for a while.

      I really get along well with him, and we have fun going to Redskins games and DC United games together, plus hitting up Wizards games from time to time, and we look out for each other. This is just one of his faults, and I know I have plenty of faults as well.

      You will never find a perfect person, you just have to be careful who you pick to spend your time around. (haha, how funny is this, I am actually giving advice)

      _____________________________________________

      As for her, I do like her, so I cant really complain about that to much. Im sure shell figure it out, and I just hope that comes sooner rather then later.

      In the meantime, I am going to enjoy swimming with my other friends

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      • #4
        Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

        Ok,I have female problems.

        Here it goes,(its going to be a long story,but stick with me..please)

        Last summer I wasnt working,so I was hanging out at a friends apartment alot.He used to have ALOT of girls over there,well anyways one day I met a girl over there that I really liked,and I think she liked me too.Well it turned out that my friend really liked her too.(shes very pretty,and has a great personality).Well he knew I liked her and that she liked me,but he really wanted to be with her.

        So,he pulled the ol' "Yeah,I heard that she really likes me,so im gonna get with her".And the way he said it to me,and considering he said it to me out of nowhere.I knew that he knew that Her and I both liked each other but he wanted her.So I just kinda forgot about her.

        Anyways I get a g/f about a month later (whom I love very much).Well I get a job in November.Well guess whos working there?.Thats right that girl from the summertime.Well we work together almost everyday,shes knows I have a g/f.Well she ends up telling me that the only reason she would go over to that apartment during the summer was to see me,and I told her the same went for myself.

        She wondered why I quit going over there.Well anyways after we had worked together for about 6 months,with being at after-work get togethers and what not.One night she comes up to me and starts crying and basically tells me that I am the greatest man she has ever known,and she knows that I have a g/f but that she loves me.And she wishes she could have seen me more that summer so she could have asked me out.

        Well my g/f never liked this girl from day 1.And I never told my g/f anything about her.But my g/f just had that "feeling" about her.And my g/f told me to stay away from her.So now im in a situation where I have to work with this girl every night and my gf grills me about it on every break I get,everytime we talk.Which I know that if I wasnt with my g/f I would be with this other girl.

        Its just very hard...alot of emotions.
        LoneGranger33 said
        Agreed. As the members of Guns and Roses once said, "every rose has its thorn".

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        • #5
          Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

          So who do you like better, the GF or the girl who cried and said she loves you?



          RESIDENT COUNTING THREAD PHILOSOPHIZER

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          • #6
            Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

            Originally posted by heywoode
            So who do you like better, the GF or the girl who cried and said she loves you?

            My gf...my gf knows me better,and loves me for me.I dont know if that girl knows me like my gf does.
            LoneGranger33 said
            Agreed. As the members of Guns and Roses once said, "every rose has its thorn".

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            • #7
              Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

              Do NOT date/mess w/ two girls at the same time.

              It NEVER works out

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              • #8
                Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                Originally posted by Brian
                My gf...my gf knows me better,and loves me for me.I dont know if that girl knows me like my gf does.
                Well, I was assuming you would say that, and that was the right answer. Knowing how YOU truly feel should dictate your actions with girl #2. I can't imagine that girl #2 knows you as well as your GF, so I think you are taking steps down the right path.

                Originally posted by vapacersfan
                Do NOT date/mess w/ two girls at the same time.

                It NEVER works out
                Gotta go with VA on this one, he speaks (or types) the truth. It is also disrespectful to both girls. Not that I'm saying you are doing that, or being disrespectful now, but it would be if you were messing with girl #2 while still with your GF. Not that I'm telling you anything that you don't already know...

                Girl #2 needs to know that she had her chance over the summer, and that chance is now past. I would tell her that you don't have a problem being friends with her, but it needs to stay on a professional level out of respect for your GF. Of course, that's only gonna make her like (and want) you more....

                Ah, women....

                I'm glad I'm married. I would get chewed up and spit out (no pun intended) if I was immersed in the current dating climate...



                RESIDENT COUNTING THREAD PHILOSOPHIZER

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                • #9
                  Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                  Originally posted by vapacersfan
                  Do NOT date/mess w/ two girls at the same time.

                  It NEVER works out
                  Yeah it work if you got the game down right. You break down the days you can spend with them. Its like being the coach of a football team.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                    Originally posted by Jermaniac
                    Yeah it work if you got the game down right. You break down the days you can spend with them. Its like being the coach of a football team.
                    I was talking to two young ladies at the same time, and they happened to meet each other.

                    I dont care how much game you have, you are done at that point.

                    And you look like a complete and utter ***.....


                    I am not going to stop anyone from doing it though You only live once, have fun while you are young!

                    Me on the other hand, Im a saint

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                    • #11
                      Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                      Originally posted by Brian
                      Ok,I have female problems.

                      Here it goes,(its going to be a long story,but stick with me..please)

                      Last summer I wasnt working,so I was hanging out at a friends apartment alot.He used to have ALOT of girls over there,well anyways one day I met a girl over there that I really liked,and I think she liked me too.Well it turned out that my friend really liked her too.(shes very pretty,and has a great personality).Well he knew I liked her and that she liked me,but he really wanted to be with her.

                      So,he pulled the ol' "Yeah,I heard that she really likes me,so im gonna get with her".And the way he said it to me,and considering he said it to me out of nowhere.I knew that he knew that Her and I both liked each other but he wanted her.So I just kinda forgot about her.

                      Anyways I get a g/f about a month later (whom I love very much).Well I get a job in November.Well guess whos working there?.Thats right that girl from the summertime.Well we work together almost everyday,shes knows I have a g/f.Well she ends up telling me that the only reason she would go over to that apartment during the summer was to see me,and I told her the same went for myself.

                      She wondered why I quit going over there.Well anyways after we had worked together for about 6 months,with being at after-work get togethers and what not.One night she comes up to me and starts crying and basically tells me that I am the greatest man she has ever known,and she knows that I have a g/f but that she loves me.And she wishes she could have seen me more that summer so she could have asked me out.

                      Well my g/f never liked this girl from day 1.And I never told my g/f anything about her.But my g/f just had that "feeling" about her.And my g/f told me to stay away from her.So now im in a situation where I have to work with this girl every night and my gf grills me about it on every break I get,everytime we talk.Which I know that if I wasnt with my g/f I would be with this other girl.

                      Its just very hard...alot of emotions.
                      You go with the one that looks better.

                      Originally posted by vapacersfan
                      I was talking to two young ladies at the same time, and they happened to meet each other.

                      I dont care how much game you have, you are done at that point.

                      And you look like a complete and utter ***.....


                      I am not going to stop anyone from doing it though You only live once, have fun while you are young!

                      Me on the other hand, Im a saint
                      Well thing is you cant get girls from the same area code. You get one from Oakland and from San Fran. And if they meet you just say "We can all be best friends."

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                      • #12
                        Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                        haha, yeah, these girls ended up working together. Not good.

                        I know one who told me the other day she likes three-somes. I think we are going to be friends

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                        • #13
                          Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                          If my girl ever asks me if she can bring a friend when we do our thing, I'm going to ask her to marry me right then and there.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                            Originally posted by Jermaniac
                            If my girl ever asks me if she can bring a friend when we do our thing, I'm going to ask her to marry me right then and there.
                            haha, she is a freak, but I aint trying to get married or nothing.

                            She said we could, but it would have to be with another girl, and I couldnt touch the other girl

                            But thats neither here nor there.

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                            • #15
                              Re: Ok, I promised a female trouble thread, so here it is.

                              Originally posted by vapacersfan
                              Well Soup, thats part of dealing with people who you know are going to be around for a while.

                              I really get along well with him, and we have fun going to Redskins games and DC United games together, plus hitting up Wizards games from time to time, and we look out for each other. This is just one of his faults, and I know I have plenty of faults as well.

                              You will never find a perfect person, you just have to be careful who you pick to spend your time around. (haha, how funny is this, I am actually giving advice)

                              _____________________________________________

                              As for her, I do like her, so I cant really complain about that to much. Im sure shell figure it out, and I just hope that comes sooner rather then later.

                              In the meantime, I am going to enjoy swimming with my other friends
                              You are right, there is no perfect person.

                              Dude A sounds like a person that I just wouldn't be friends with, though.

                              Jonk!
                              You, Never? Did the Kenosha Kid?

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