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James Bond
02-03-2008, 11:28 PM
I just keep screwing over myself with my girl situation.
here's where i'm at right now.
i have two girls that are interested in me, both are pretty attractive, but there's no spark with either of them.
There are also two girls that I have feelings for, both know I like them and think that i'm a pretty good guy.
One is about to date another guy right now, and the other has told me that I remind her of her brother (I know, Ouch.)

I don't know why this always happens to me.
I think it has to be something that i'm doing.

And normally I would've just went for one of the other girls where it's a sure thing, but last time i settled like that, i ended up in a 4 month long relationship that sucked *** so much that I never want to go through with it again.

But yeah.
I keep screwing myself over, Sooo... ROT IN HELL ME!!!

Trader Joe
02-03-2008, 11:39 PM
Hit it and quit it.

Did I say hit it? Yeah! ****ing hit it!

Aw Heck
02-03-2008, 11:43 PM
...What exactly is the problem here?

grace
02-03-2008, 11:50 PM
Who knew that Tom Brady is acutally James Bond? :shrug:

Lord Helmet
02-04-2008, 12:31 AM
Who knew that Tom Brady is acutally James Bond? :shrug:
:laugh:

But seriously even with my inexperience I think I'm inclined to agree with Indy.....

Hicks
02-04-2008, 12:33 AM
That is, if you feel morally OK with "hitting it then quitting it".....

Lord Helmet
02-04-2008, 12:35 AM
That is, if you feel morally OK with "hitting it then quitting it".....
Well, those words can seem harsh, but I try to find it as just have fun with the friendship/relationship, with benefits, pick one or whatever....but I don't see the sense in trying to have a serious relationship in high school.

Trader Joe
02-04-2008, 12:39 AM
That is, if you feel morally OK with "hitting it then quitting it".....

There ain't no shame in my game...

rexnom
02-04-2008, 12:41 AM
My advice to you is two-fold.

First, definitely hook up with those two girls that like you. Gotta agree with Indy. Not just one, both.

Second, pick one of the girls and go all-in for her. In this case, one, not both.

James Bond
02-04-2008, 04:35 PM
My advice to you is two-fold.

First, definitely hook up with those two girls that like you. Gotta agree with Indy. Not just one, both.

Second, pick one of the girls and go all-in for her. In this case, one, not both.

The question is.
At the same time.
Can you say threesome?
lol.
j/k.
One of um is a virgin though and i doubt that she will do anything.
the other might though.
so, that is a possibility.

Lord Helmet
02-04-2008, 04:42 PM
The question is.
At the same time.
Can you say threesome?
lol.
j/k.
One of um is a virgin though and i doubt that she will do anything.
the other might though.
so, that is a possibility.
YOU PIG!

I am disgusted in you.......

:-p

James Bond
02-04-2008, 09:04 PM
YOU PIG!

I am disgusted in you.......

:-p

Oh be quiet.

You know me.

Even if I try.

I'll fail.

My game needs work.

rexnom
02-05-2008, 05:16 AM
The question is.
At the same time.
Can you say threesome?
lol.
j/k.
One of um is a virgin though and i doubt that she will do anything.
the other might though.
so, that is a possibility.
If you're worried about your game then use this as an opportunity to practice it. It seems to me like you've got two shots to get your confidence up and "spit game" before going to a girl that you actually like. Use it. Just don't be a total dick and lead the girls on and then ditch em. Being a playa is one thing, being a dick is another - make sure they know the deal...or at least that many dates aren't involved.

bellisimo
02-05-2008, 07:20 AM
i gotta agree with what Rexnom has said...

there is a fine line with casual dating and sex and just being a dick about it.

heywoode
02-05-2008, 11:20 AM
All you have to do is live by the rule of "Why would it be any different than us hanging out, making each other feel good, with no strings and no committments?"

If you can convince one of them to go for that approach, you're game just went up a letter grade.

Hicks
02-05-2008, 11:51 AM
That approach/mindset is a lie, though. It never stays that way.

bellisimo
02-05-2008, 02:18 PM
That approach/mindset is a lie, though. It never stays that way.

true - the girls always got emotionally attached after a few weeks....

which makes you go back and look for new ones...

till you find the right one...

heywoode
02-05-2008, 02:39 PM
What I suggested is no way to go through life and no way to work on finding someone to be with for the rest of your life. It is right to also know that it never stays that way.

As long as you are on the long road to finding a life mate, and things don't look good in that department, might as well have some fun along the way.

It is a delicate balance between having fun until the fun runs out and moving on; and getting labeled as someone not to be taken seriously in the larger picture.

I'm not advising to mortgage your future for fun now, just to play it as it comes and enjoy what you've got in front of you, even if you know it isn't going to last and isn't going anywhere.

Girls are smarter than most guys give them credit for. If you are honest about your attitude of "Hey, you aren't the girl I'm gonna marry one day, but we like each other and are comfortable enough to have some fun", it can work out fine. Quite a bit of the time, the women aren't looking for a lifemate on Saturday night either.

James Bond
02-05-2008, 03:02 PM
Just to add to confusion.
Add another girl to the mix who used to have feelings for me.
And now, idk what she thinks. We are supposed to chill on the weekend.
She's really outgoing and a flirt, so I never know what she is thinking.
And I don't know what her stance is on sex.
Just saying.
It's hard to be with someone who's not sexually active when you are.

Hicks
02-05-2008, 04:52 PM
true - the girls always got emotionally attached after a few weeks....

which makes you go back and look for new ones...

till you find the right one...

It's not just a girl thing.

heywoode
02-05-2008, 05:12 PM
It normally was just a girl thing for me. I seemed to be able to keep in mind that the kinds of girls who didn't mind no strings and no commitments sex weren't the ones I needed to grow attached to.

Not saying I didn't enjoy time with them, just didn't ever contemplate taking it to another level.

cactusjack
02-06-2008, 05:53 PM
It's not just a girl thing.
You're right, Mal. But those occasions when you develop feelings and she doesn't are just part of life's learning curve. It hurts for awhile then you get over it and move on. That's what life is all about.

bellisimo
02-07-2008, 05:28 AM
It normally was just a girl thing for me. I seemed to be able to keep in mind that the kinds of girls who didn't mind no strings and no commitments sex weren't the ones I needed to grow attached to.

Not saying I didn't enjoy time with them, just didn't ever contemplate taking it to another level.


yea I agree with this - with them sex is more about having fun and not really about emotions and love and other feelings you might have for a girlfriend...

Major Cold
02-13-2008, 12:50 PM
How much fulfillment can you have with those who you are not convinced on?

You can play your games, but deep down you know that it is not enough?

bellisimo
02-13-2008, 01:08 PM
How much fulfillment can you have with those who you are not convinced on?

You can play your games, but deep down you know that it is not enough?

personal experience says about a week to a month...depending on how good the sex is....

campy
02-13-2008, 06:46 PM
Why not try to date/get with all four or five (i'm confused now on the number) of the girls?

James Bond
02-13-2008, 09:07 PM
it was up to about 5 for a while, now it's back down to 3.